So I want to try and have another baby this December. There are pro's and con's to it.
Pro's: my children will be less than three years apart, I will still be in baby mode so it would be easier to have a newborn, and my hubby won't be "too old" for when the kids are both playing.
Con's: my brother is getting married two months later so that means I will not have a celebratory drink (which I don't mind at all) but I'd be puking the whole time, our child may not be mature enough to understand that having a newborn doesn't mean that we love him less, and (the biggest con) I would give birth the month before my wedding; which means I won't be down to my pre pregnancy weight, may not get to have a full out wedding night, and certainly wouldn't be able to have a baby free honeymoon. I'm thinking it would be better to wait till the next December, so we can get married and whatnot, but I don't know if I want my kids to be nearly 4 years apart. Thoughts?
- start trying in December 2015Vote A
- wait until December 2016 to tryVote B
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If you are just looking for insight, then I honestly don't see any of those as real negatives. You could try to sneak away and have an early honeymoon, or even go on a second honeymoon. Building a family sounds more important to me than going on honeymoon, or having a drink at a wedding.
Your child not understanding could be a problem at any age. In fact the older the child is, the easier it would be to neglect them and expect them to take care of themselves. This means an older child might have a bigger problem than a younger child. Most people don't have a lot of memories from when they were really young, so they are unlikely to resent a change if they can't remember what life was like before it. So this con will never go away.
You could also consider having the wedding in a few months from now, instead of a year from now. I am sure you have your reasons, but being engaged for a year, while still having kids together doesn't make sense to me. I would just go ahead and tie the knot, then work on having a baby in December.1