We’ve been married for almost 9 years and have a daughter. Sexually it is ZERO-NADA-RIEN since the baby is born (she is 4 now). Two years ago I found out he was cheating on me. Well I told him I knew about it. One year of tears, depression, frustration all the usual sh*t followed by one year of emptiness. He doesn’t want to divorce. He sincerely talk to me only when drunk, he wants everything like before but does nothing for it. Can't go like that anymore. What do I do? Leave, stay, cheat? … marriage sucks.
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Who is the one who does not want to have sex?
If he's the one who doesn't want to have sex and cheated on you, then yeah dump him and move on asap rather than prolonging the process.
However, if you are the one who did not want to have sex, you can't blame him for cheating on you. Guys need sex, it would be natural that they seek it elsewhere if they are not getting it from home. Just like how women have the chance of seeking emotional needs elsewhere if they do not get it at home. I say this is because even if you move on and get into a relationship with another guy, the same problem will surface.
In my opinion, your daughter and you are better off living in a family where there is a father and husband. Unless he is abusive. You guys just need marriage counseling. Relationships are very hard to maintain, especially a marriage. That's why I do not understand why people are so fast in jumping into a marriage (not talking about you, but just in general). I do not mean to sound insensitive to your feelings but it is a lot easier for other people to tell you to leave the marriage and so on JUST because your husband cheated. But, it takes two to make the relationship the way it is. I understand that emptiness you feel and the whole "his" room and "my" room. Feelings and emotions are temporary. You have a daughter now and I am sure she'll be glad to know that her mother did try everything she can to give her a complete family.
If there is any love left between you and your husband, give it another try :)4
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