My boyfriend of the past year proposed. I said yes. I really do love him and want to spend the rest of my life with him but i feel maybe he is settling? He is ten years older than me but age doesn't bother me, he says it doesn't bother him either. But we never go out, if we do its fishing, he loves fishing and spending all his time doing so. If we have plans to go out that day, we fish. We dont go to movies, or dinner. Usually we take my toddler with us when we go fishing, but he fishes while i make sure my kid doesn't fall in the water. And if we aren't fishing we are smoking together in silence mostly. Im a hermit per say, lol, i dont like to be crowded or go out a lot. But once a year isn't too much to ask for, right? When i told him id like to go out and do something he says we have no money or that we do go out. When i mentioned we only ever fish or smoke he gets offended saying he does, or guilts me asking if im unhappy. So i drop the discussion because he doesn't see it. Even if i offer to pay he rather stay home smoke and do nothing or go fishing. He even wants to get married on a boat so he can fish, and im TERRIFIED of the water. If i can't see my ankles im in fear. And he knows this.
Is my fiance settling?
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I'd say the one 'settling' is you. If he isn't willing to compromise even a little bit, or make an effort to do something that he knows makes you happy, it might be time to end the relationship and look for someone who has more in common with you. Or you could work on your fear of the water and resign to never go out to eat again. Ever. Just remember... what you are committing yourself to, you are also committing your child to. Do you want your kid to grow up never being able to eat at a resturaunt or go places?0
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