About 5 years ago my hubby's bestfriend, Al, met my cousin at a party. They started sleeping together, then started dating and got engaged over the Christmas holidays.
Recently my hubby told me about a lot of things about Al I didn't know. We went out and we were a bit tipsy when we got home and started talking about how annoying my cousin is with her wedding planning. She is quite annoying, but she's my cousin so I obviously care about her.
my hubby blurted out "I can't believe he's actually marrying her, I didn't even know he liked her". I asked him what he meant, and he told me that the entire time they were dating Al always went out with other girls (he wouldn't say if he cheated or not). He always complained about my cousin, how annoying she is, he said he's not even attracted to her, all kinds of things. Whenever she would stay at his place she'd turn it into a zoo, she was dirty, lazy and had no personality. This is what Al always talked about. He said he was really shocked When Al told him last year he wanted to propose to my cousin. My husband tried to talk him out of it, but Al wouldn't listen because he didn't want to start dating all over again since we're 33 now (he's 34, my cousin and I are 33). He also said he feels bad for my cousin and he couldnt just leave her after all thse years. It was horrible to hear all this I never really knew he felt this way about my cousin. I could tell they never really had much in common. My cousin and I used to be closer but since she started dating Al it meant I Had to see her more and she's actually annoying and I had to stop talking to her so much cus she drives me crazy.
I just don't know what to do? Should I say anything to her or just mind my own business and let them get married. The wedding she's planning so far is kind of insane and childish.. I feel like it's their mess but my girlfriends said I should say something since she's my cousin.
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I probably wouldn't say anything if i were you. If you say that they have been happier over the last year (and since Al agree to marry her in the first place) i think that he actually has changed his feelings for her. But if the marriage doesn't work you can tell me "i told ya so!" :P1