What would you do in this situation?
We were HS sweethearts who met in 9th grade. We dated all 4 years of HS. We dated all 4 years of college. We're graduating in May.
He completely surprised me with a proposal on Saturday and we are beyond excited to begin our lives. At least... we were.
We were home for that weekend visiting our families and he took me to the place we went on our first date and popped the question.
We told my parents when he dropped me off and my dad shook his hand, and my mom gave him a half hug. They weren't ecstatic like I was hoping, but compared to how his family reacted?
We went to his family for lunch the next day and announced our engagement and, are you ready for this?
His mom said, "Oh. Really? Why?"
His dad looked at him and said, "Are you sure you want to do this so soon?"
No hug. No congratulations. They didn't even try to fake it.
So... um... now it's kind of awkward. Seeing as it was a lukewarm celebration at best from my folks and a... nothing, from his.
When his sisters each got engaged his parents were over the moon and went out and celebrated. With us? Nope. Nada.
It's so awkward now. We've been together for 8 years and have been going to each other's family and holiday celebrations for the past 7. It's not like our future in-laws don't know us.
I'm confused. We both feel like as soon as we decided to "make it serious" our families shut down and rejected our relationship.
We're very confused about their reactions.
Anyone have any ideas on why they responded this way?
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I am sorry that you got this lukewarm reception from your future in laws, but you are not alone in this situation.
When I told my folks I was getting married (40+ years ago), we got a similar muted response from my parents, even though we had been dating a mere 4 years. My fiancé was in nursing school, and I had already finished college and had a job. Yet they weren't too keen on our engagement.
Over the years I learned that I, being an only child, leaving the roost for good was giving my folks a dose of what's called 'empty nest' syndrome. This is what may be happening to his parents. (And maybe they were just glad to get his sisters out of the house!)
I am banking on this initial chill to thaw once they realize that this is what you both really want. Give it some time. Be happy that you are in love! I am happy for you! 😂
If you are in truly in Love with this young man whom you've known for a better part of your life, then NOTHING ELSE MATTERS!! Marry him and the rest will take care of itself!
Bless You Both!1