Anyone else so totally frustrated about the lack of sex in your marriage?
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I certainly have reached that stage of frustration, during marriage and other long term relationships since then.
No-one likes being rejected most days of the week, and sometimes even 365 days of the year. I personally have never rejected a partner's sexual advances in any relationship (unless there was a medical reason, like a temporary back injury). Medical reasons might account for about 3 days in many decades.
For many decades, I couldn't work out why most women become determined to avoid sex after a few years into a relationship. I knew it was happening, but it's obviously counter-productive and without logical reason.
*It doesn't seem to matter if you're a better man than ever. Not just physically, but even more devoted in the relationship than she is.
*It doesn't seem to matter if you're better in bed than the next 5000 men, and by all accounts I am. It doesn't matter how earth-shattering the sex is, if and when it ever happens.
*This business actually seems to happen more often in secure relationships, where little else is wrong.
After much research which agreed with my findings, I discovered this and it made sense. www.macleans.ca/culture/books/the-two-year-itch/
Most women have a use-by date, and it's instinctive ( caused by body chemicals in her head). There's nothing you or she can do to change it.
If the sexual relationship is over, just get her to admit it. 10 times a year or less is hardly a relationship, and you'd get more from strays. Then you only have a financial marriage contract. You are 2 estranged ex-lovers living under one roof.
Thesedays, I'm always prepared for the 3 or 4 year use-by date. It doesn't matter how much she loved you in the beginning, or if you're a better man than ever. It becomes more complicated if you married during that time. Only about 20% of women are capable of loving the same man forever, but plenty will expect you to stay around while they exploit you (while showing you zero physical affection).0
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