A little background: I'm 31 (my profile says something diff & I can't fix it). I fell in love a few years ago & hid it from my family b/c they are strict Muslims and I'm not allowed to date. We met in med school but didn't start seeing each other on a romantic level till i withdrew. He is now in residency.
I don't believe in Islam but pretend b/c my dad said he would disown me if I don't. I live at home w/my parents b/c that's what is expected from women who are not married. I tried to leave a couple of times & there was a big fight & I got scared.
I introduced my fiance to my mom and dad a couple months ago. They want me to reconsider because his mom is Jewish & they think I won't be a part of the community anymore...& that it will create problems if I have kids. My mom told me I wasn't in the right frame of mind b/c I was withdrawing from med school and was vulnerable. My parents said I betrayed them because I formed a strong emotional bond w/someone b4 I introduced my family to him...
my dad said If I go through with this he will never have a normal relationship with me. They said a lot of other stuff but I hope you get the point. There is a lot of tension at home. Yesterday I wasn't home at 10pm so I got a phone call from my mom and she clearly didn't believe where I was based on all the questions she asked. i want to leave but don't know how b/c I'm scared of my dad... he has a very bad temper.
Most Helpful Guy
I would say if this guy really is right for you and he does love you back and isn't the type to leave you later then I say pick him. A relationship with your life partner is a big deal, that type of love can only be given by him and not your family. If they won't let you spend your life with someone you will be really happy with then they aren't really putting you first but instead Islam first. I say leave because they don't care about your happiness anyway but if you do fuck up later in life e. g. divorce then your family will not be there for you. If you are independant, have source of income then that should all be okay1
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Most Helpful Girl
One of my family member did.
She chose her love. (I don't know if it matters but her relationship with family was not too close. So that may have made her choice easier.)
Now they are fine though. Took a few years for the family to become normal.
If it were me, I would choose my family because I need their blessings.
But can't say for sure as I am not in that situation.
I may contradict myself.1