As An Asian women who come from traditional minded family, I was expected to be married at the age of early twenties.
Now that my cousin is getting married and so does most of my peers, it feels like I'm getting left behind because I don't or never have a exclusive relationship.
My closest form of being in a relationship was 2 years ago when I got friend zoned by my college mate.
I don't know how to be in a relationship, I think it would take too much effort and commitment to work things out, and I certainly not ready for it.
When I tell people that I'm single they don't believe me, even if they do, they will assume that because I'm too picky, while in fact there's literally no one ever asked me out. Lol
I don't even know how to start relationship, how?
And how to cope with peer pressure of getting married?
Most Helpful Guy
I'm also Asian and in a traditional Asian country.
Two years ago when i turned thirty i had a lot of 'when are you going to invite us (to your wedding)?' question. The first few months i tried to dodge the answer by joking but it made them think that i'm not taking life seriously (the nerves!). After that i turned to the more hostile answer of 'mind your own business'. Is it rude? Yes. Then why do i do it? Because them trying to control how i live my life is also rude. "I've never cheated on anyone ever; not a drug addict; not an alcoholic; productive; never done time; and not in any financial debt (except maybe credit card bill). Why is that not enough?" This is my justification for my rudeness. I'm a caring friend, loving uncle, adorable brother, and helpful son. What more do you want?
If they go the 'but a wife will make you better' route, i'd say 'or make me worse'. Both statements are true.
As for starting a relationship. It involves another person and asking them whether they're interested in a relationship. :D1
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Most Helpful Girl
tell them to leave you alone.0