Ladies, BE HONEST.
Statistics say that 3/4 women marry for money and 1/4 marry for love.
Lets see how the GaG community stacks up.
- MoneyVote A
- LoveVote B
Most Helpful Girl
I'd like to see these statistics. But regardless, love. I've been born and raised dirt poor. I learned to hustle and provide for myself from my mama. On that note, I'd rather he had a stable job. WAIT before you begin to bitch and cry, having a single income is unrealistic in today's world, and our dollars are stretching thin.
I don't want him depending on me, and I certainly wouldn't depend on him.
Also, I'd never date if I wasn't working. I don't even go out if I don't have my own money to pay. I have and will reject guys if I'm unemployed no matter how much I like them.
I want an equal relationship and one of my values is a worker because I've been working since I was 12, literally half my life now.
He doesn't have to have the best job in the world. As long as he's passionate about it. If he is an artist (*insert starving artist joke here*) or let's say he really enjoys being a dishwasher for some reason. Then that's all because I know I hate to go to places and see people who you can tell hate the job. So if he's passionate about it, and that's what he wants to do, then I'm down for it.
Like I've said, I was born and raised dirt poor. There was days I didn't even eat. I ate dog food as well. I'm not against struggling, but I'd rather not. Which is why I work so damn much lol3
Most Helpful Guy
You have to be careful with statistics, as they can be twisted to show pretty much anything the person wants them to show. Overall I would say that depends on how much money the woman already has, and how you define love. If a woman can't afford to feed her kid, then money is definitely going to be higher on her list. Desperate people do things they otherwise wouldn't do. This is likely linked to why poor women are more likely to marry that rich women. The rich women don't need the man the way the poor women do. As a result poor women are more likely to marry for a reason other than having some lovey dovey feeling in their heart.
The idea of marrying for "love" is a fairly new idea for an entire society to be based on, and actually is very stupid. What I mean by that is that what most people consider love, is just infatuation and is a poor bases for a marriage. You ever hear anyone say "I love them, but I am not in love with them"? That means they care about the person, but they aren't infatuated any longer. Infatuation rarely lasts for more than a few years. When those feelings run out, they lose interest in making the marriage work.
Actual love is just a commitment to sacrifice for someone else. A parent working two jobs to put the kids through collage, or a man throwing himself over his wife during a shooting are different examples of a sacrifice that can be made out of love. Most love however is basically just a partnership for their mutual survival. This is why people rarely divorced in the past. They needed each other more back then. The more independent men and women get, the less motivation they have to stay married, since the sacrifices of their partner are no longer needed.
There is actually nothing wrong with marrying for money. A marriage should be a partnership, and it is only natural that a man or woman is going to want a partner that can provide them with what they lack on their own. Otherwise your partner would have nothing to offer you, and would be a bad choice for a partner.0