Im seeing a whole influx of marriage questions on here, things pertaining to marriage, and its all girls. Not one, not ONE of them said anything about what would happen afterDid it ever occur to women what happens after you don your "pretty" wedding dress and sport your ring? Ever wonder why most guys are not asking those questions?
Women are out there, keeping virginities, creating types, creating stories and it all seems like to them, it all ends at marriage. Guys know better, we understand that dating itself is already difficult as is and its only two people, and with marriage, tons of third parties are involved.
Im sorry to say but from what I've seen here on GaG, a good percentage of all these expectant naive marriage-headers are gonna be back here with marriage problems like "I didn't know it would be like this", or heaven forbid, divorce (yes, its a real thing). Guys or maybe guys like me are thinking more of what will happen after the fact and are already creating solutions. This isn't the early 1900's, the sanctity of marriage is not as it was. Rather than thinking of what will lead to marriage, you should be thinking of what to do after its happened. You are stepping into an even bigger warzone than dating and many can't even handle dating. My friend was in an abusive relationship for 3 years and 2 out of those 3 years i tried convincing her to get out... eventually she did and then got depressed and she kept saying that if she were married, she would be so much happier and all that went through my head was "no it wont". Marriage is not some end game ladies... so why is it that so so many of you keep thinking that as soon as there's a ring, all problems just go away. Marriage is still dating but with more people involved, the law, family,... children. Its not the end, its the beginning of More things that you possibly may not be ready for. I try to recommend those who can't even hold down a boyfriend NOT to think of marriage, and also those that have the fantasy that marriage solves everything...
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Here's how I see it. Most girls like that are the kind who look forward to the WEDDING, that is, the big ass party that only lasts a few hours where all the attention is on you, where you get to wear a pretty dress and eat cake and all that. It's fun (and it should be). I know - my own wedding was almost a year ago (wow), and it was fun but now we've moved on from that. These women have been fed the Disney princess fantasy crap, continued to believe it when they got older, and that's how they think their life is going to turn out. Some guys can be that way too, by the way. It's time for all those people to take off the rose coloured glasses and learn that the marriage is so much more important than the wedding. The wedding means fuck all in the long run.
Some people are always going to think getting married will fix their relationship. It's not a cure all for relationship problems. I doubt the divorce rate would be as high as it is if people just stopped pulling the wool over their eyes by thinking marriage is all going to be fine and dandy, and then being super disappointed in the future without bothering to work on any issues that arise in their relationship.
People also rush into marriage nowadays like there's no tomorrow. It's crazy. I really think everyone should wait at least two years before even getting engaged.19