The guy am seeing says he believes when he see's the person he suppose to marry he would know (since we are not married I guess it's not me) am not willing to sleep around, so am holding on hoping for him to change his mind, we get along great together. Am I WASTING My TIME GUYS OR GIRLS WHAT SHOULD I DO.
Would you stay with someone who says he is not ready to get married and don't think if he is it will be you?
What Guys Said 1
This guy is a real piece of work. Move on.0
What Girls Said 2
"so am holding on hoping for him to change his mind"
is a mistake. From my experience and observations, men don't really "change" their minds like that. They're either at that point in their lives or not. Him saying "when he sees the person he's supposed to marry, he will know" not only speaks volumes about whether he sees you as wife material or not, but also screams that he is not thinking of settling down anytime soon.
Now, you may say that you're cool with holding out a bit and not looking to get married right now anyway, but think about it: he has basically told you that even if he was ready, you are not someone he will marry. "Holding on HOPING" for him to change his mind will do nothing but tie you to him when you could instead be available for other suitors that may take you more seriously. And let's be honest, men don't propose on the 2nd date lol. The way I see it, if marriage is ANYwhere on your radar (as in not necessarily now, but sometime in near future..), as SOON as a guy informs you (either by his actions or his words) that he doesn't see you as a potential wifey, keep it the f*** moving lol. Sorry, I'm just being real.0
It matters how long you have been dating him
Maybe you should bring it up and see what he says
Tell him how you feel. Its not fair to him, if you automatically assume for the worst.
Maybe he is not ready yet.
But, If you feel that way go find someone else0
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