I always see questions about why/when/how people want to get married, but why wouldn't you want to be married?
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Marriage doesn't garantee anything. I doesn't garantee love, happiness, loyalty, or even frequent sex. It only provides a few tax benefits which in my opinion, are nullified by the fact the higher earner (usually the guy) ends up losing a lot in the divorce in addition to attorney fees. Plus the engagement rings are overpriced considering diamonds aren't really that rare.
Also it's kinda hard to find a classy woman nowadays. I actually think it's more flattering for a woman to choose you for fwbs than it is to be chosen as her husband. Women have higher standards on looks for casual sex and lower standards on looks for marriage. So they are often more attracted to their past fuck buddies than they are to their husbands. Being the guy a woman wants to marry doesn't mean you're the most attractive guy she's ever been with or the best sex, it just means you're the most convenient now that she's ready for responsibilities and sacrifices (buying a house and raising kids). I'd rather be the hot exciting guy they want to hop in bed on the first date with over the boring stable guy they go for out of convenience.
There's also the 40-50% divorce rate and since the guys is usually the higher earner, and the one who has invested more into the relationship financially, he stands to lose the most if the shit hits the fan.
If you were told that 40-50% of the time parachutes did not open would you go skydiving?6