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Most Helpful Girl
Wish, bitter much? Let me talk you through my marriage:
Yes I wanted to get married but I didn't pressure him. As for kids it was him pushing me. I didn't want them yet and didn't think we were financially ready. He spent every penny on cannabis and gaming while we (me and kid) had nothing to eat. I left. He kept the house (rental) and kicked us out on the street so he could keep the dog. He lost the house soon after because he lost his job as he'd rather stay home every day and smoke pot than work. He's given me £50 for the kid in 3 years. I paid for the divorce and also "won" full rights to the debts he'd accrued in joint names because he went bankrupt.
He gets the kid every other weekend (and I do all the transporting) and the kid thinks he's great because I'd never shatter her ideal hero father for her. He can do that himself. Oh, and I always earned more than him, worked more hours than him and still kept house. When I left he kept our friends and I was the one starting again with nothing.
If that's your idea of marriage you're a bit pathetic. I wouldn't piss on him if he was on fire, but I'd never rob our kid of her father, even if he is a waste of space. He left me with nothing but debts and I clawed my way back up and kept my self respect. We're both seeing other people now. I started dating first - 18 months after the split!
Grow a pair.0
Most Helpful Guy
Maybe, but if you don't want to risk it, then it's simple:
Just Quit Entirely and give up on Marriage and having Children altogether
Because it just is not for Everyone on this Planet and not a Guarantee of Happiness or Success or whatever that you thought it would bring you such as fulfillment.
If I were that guy in the pictures I probably would have had a vasectomy ahead of time or something. It's still easier to pull through and recover when a marriage results in complete failure and ends up so terrible that there is no additional burden of needing to pay child support that you can't even afford to pay.
It's not a mandatory to have a family and kids of your own. So why give in to those thoughts and feelings and pressure from everybody else and society?
Why even give a fuck what the rest of them think about you for still being single?
They give you all this pressure and shit and it may also be the fact that some of these people are in really miserable situations with their relationships, their marriages and their kids.
Which however, if you are still single (and absolutely do not have any kids), then you are free from all that drama and shit, and should be grateful about it. Sure it may get lonely sometimes, but I think that those situations depicted would be much worse in reality in the end.
They try to put us singles down to make themselves feel good, well I say fuck 'em! We singles do not have to conform and we will be strong and stubborn enough to never give in and follow and then suffer through all the shit that they might have to suffer through.0