Sometimes I feel like there's no such thing as 'compatible'
To me, it's impossible for you to meet someone who is 100% compatible with you in every expect but I believe if both parties willing to compromise it can work. Some of my married friends came up to me (they know I am single) saying it isn't as wonderful as people think. A few of them even confessed if they ever had a chance to turn back their decision, they would grab it. Sounds scary to me haha. Still, it doesn't change my view. Whether it is a gamble or no, I still wanna get married in the future :D
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Most Helpful Guy
The two main reasons for divorce are over money and incompatible sex needs and desires.
People can be unhappy in a marriage for many reasons. Often it is because they overlooked the issues when they were so much in love, then when love changes, those issues become noticeable.
The correct approach is communication and honesty. From that you can either accept or reject, but do not try to change. Often, especially men, one does not tell the other the truth because he does not believe she can handle the truth. And usually, he is correct. When she finds out, she is pssd.
Agree on what you will agree on, and agree on what you will not agree on and accept it.1
Most Helpful Girl
I really agree that marriage is a HUGE part of your life so you really should think about it a lot. The person you marry has to truly love you and want to change to become a better person for you. I know because I am married. I get hit on a few times and I tell him that I"d never cheat on him because marriage is WORK. I put so much WORK into figuring out who my husband is and what he needs to improve and I have improved to be the right person for him and vice versa. For example, my husband use to be a self righteous, arrogant, and annoying person. He use to say a lot of negative things about people and things in general, and he use to think he was always right about everything when he was wrong half or most of the time. He would make me feel stupid and him right even though he didn't know if he was right or not. I have changed him so that he would be like, I may be right but I may be wrong. And he has become MORE positive, and trying to LESS talk about negative things... like if he hates a store, he can just say no thankyou instead of that store is the worse store in the whole world... etc etc. Anyways, two people who are going to last as friends or as a marriage really need to talk about how to better communicate with one another. When that works, then your marriage/relationship slowly improves through the year. It's an investment you make in friendship. I wouldn't trade it for anything. It starts to have value, where you really can feel appreciated, loved and understood with one another. You feel you have a place to feel comforted and belong instead of judged and annoyed. Good luck.1