I found out my husband is cheating on me with a coworker but he says its nothing which i believe he says he's just using her for blow jobs and pics nothing more he doesn't care about her at all. He says he basically treats her like crap doesn't buy or do anything for her which i can believe but my question is i dont know if i should be happy about that or not cause he's been with her for about a yr now and we've only been married 8mos. Im not sure what to do or say cause i know he's going to continue no matter what so i guess i should accept it cause i love him and he's my Mr. Right. Its just sex i guess
Most Helpful Guy
1. Your accepting it though you don't agree with it cause you love him is nothing but sacrifice and compromise
2. So long as he appreciates the value of you it's all ok
3. But most times in such situations it happens that one starts multiplying and in the long run someone like you is miserable and then you take decisions out of force and are distraught
4. I'd say take a decision NOW that will save you future problems :) The decision could well be the one that you are taking now - of staying :or otherwise :)0
Most Helpful Girl
So you know a lot about this already:
They've been together for a year but you've only been married for 8 months. So, during your engagement he was already with her.
You love him and he's your Mr Right.
But he's been banging his co-worker during your engagement. You are not his Miss Right.
He uses her for BJs and nudes and nothing more = it's just sex right? WRONG.
He is DATING his co-worker as well as being married to you. He reduces it to something which you can relate to (nudes, BJS, treats her like crap, she's nothing special) but he's been doing that for a year. He likes this girl and enjoys what she gives him. in my opinion its more than nudes and pics. She is satisfying some need in him which he either can't express with you or doesn't feel able to ask from you. There is no way that girl would be treated like crap for a year and just live off sucking his dick and sending him nudes. Time to wake up. Your husband is a douche and fooling you into believing she means nothing. Watch what would happen if you demanded he got rid of her. Plus she's his co-worker (he can dick her probably anytime he wants) and she could blow the lid on everything. He is much more emotionally invested in this girl than he tells you. He is keeping her happy somehow so that she keeps coming back for more. If it were me, I would investigate a little more.2