I have discussed the topic of marriage with my boyfriend and he insists that all it is is a piece of paper. I try telling him it's a sign of commitment and love but he doesn't seem to want to open his mind to the idea in the future. He's never been married, I've never been married but I know I'd love to be with him always, how do I get him to see the bright side of marriage and to lose the negative thoughts on it?
Most Helpful Guy
If your boyfriend's opinion of marriage was conjured up by his own thoughts, then that's probably what he truly believes.
However, I suspect that his opinion on marriage is not his own view, and that it was simply something he read online from others who don't want to get married.
If marriage is "just a piece of paper", why are gays and lesbians fighting so hard for the right to be married? Marriage is a public declaration to friends, family and others that you two are committed to each other.
I doubt your boyfriend thinks of a married couple with kids the same way as a non-married couple with kids. A non-married couple with kids is usually seen as "Oh, they fucked up and had an accidental baby". This is because when they're not married, people do not view the couple as committed. In everyone's mind, they're just in another relationship that will break down, and then they'll find another bf/gf later.
For example, when I see my girl buddies with a new boyfriend, I just think..."geez, another one?". If they were married. I wouldn't think the husband is just another fling.1
Most Helpful Girl
To me, being in a relationship is being committed to the person you're with now... marrying someone is committing to the person they're gonna be, and being by their side growing and changing with them, as partners, developing into your future selves together.
In short - a relationship is committing to what you have now. Marriage is committing to the unknown of what you will have in the future.3
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