We used to text a lot, make fun of each other, and hung out a few times before we lost contact because she stopped trying to hang out with me (made excuses).
So absolutely no peep from her for four months.
I reconnected with her a couple weeks ago. She responded well. Just a couple simple texts.
Couple weeks later, I think I'm going to re-initiate again and ask her for drinks later this week. I'm a little nervous. I don't want her to think that I'm just an orbiter/guy who "doesn't get it"...but does it even matter what she thinks? I don't have any expectations (her excuses were probably just her telling me to go away), but I figured that at this point I have nothing to lose. If she says yes, I have a good evening. If she says no, I never had her to begin with and I have other alternatives scheduled that night that I can equally enjoy.
I'm going to ask her in a couple days because I figured she's usually busy on the weekend so my proposal will be lost in the shuffle. So the anticipation is wearing on me a bit (I don't want to be THIS anticipated since she's just a girl after all...no big deal if she says no).
So should I still do it? And if I do, how can I keep myself sane for the next two days before I ask her?
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Girls like guys who are persistent and have a certain amount of aggressiveness. I have had guys ask me out for months before finally going out with them. That persistance and aggressiveness is hot. You are right. You have nothing to lose. Ask her out. Just don't take it personally if she says no. And don't give up if she does say no. Just be persistent, but not in a rude and annoying way. Make sure she thinks you still have a life and that you are not desperate, but let her know you want her.0