This is my second marriage and my first husband whom I was married to for 23 1/2 years cheated and lied. My second husband whom I adore and trust completely has a lets say large past. He will only tell me parts of it and hates talking about it. It makes me feel like there is a wedge between us. I have no real past to speak of. This drives me crazy. Should I learned to live with it or keep talking to him about it?
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I think that he needs to open up to you even if it's slowly. I am not sure if he endured something tragic or very painful, or is the type of man that has a hard time opening up. Whatever the case may be, he married you therefore he should trust you implicitly. I am surprised you didn't broach this subject with him prior to marrying him. However, I encourage you to have him open up to you. I mean after all, you deserve to know the man you married. Whatever happened in his past is done but he owes it to you to share it. Just be loving, reaffirming and don't judge him (unless there is a basis for it).