My partner and I are both 27 and after 7 years together I'm still waiting for the proposal. He has known for the last three years that I have wanted to get married. I have never nagged about it and have been patiently waiting but now I am getting so fed up of waiting and its starting to cause problems in our relationship. I have told him how I feel and he has promised it will happen. I know that should be enough but with everybody around me asking what's taking so long and getting married and starting families I just feel really frustrated that I'm still waiting to be the wife of the man I love.
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Tough situation. I saw a similar experience unfold with a friend of mine, and here was his explanation: he hated the whole marriage concept, and by that he didn't want to have a big wedding, church wedding etc; his wife wanted the whole shebang, mainly because her friends were feeding her all this crap about a wedding, and what type of ceremony it should be, how many people, etc; so the more he saw that happening, the more he got pissed; at the time though, he would say he wasn't ready. Also, he didn't like the fact that people were telling his wife to be of what he or she should do about getting married. Finally the girlfriend (wife now) could't take it anymore, and they both ended up having a discussion of the whole situation, which led to him confessing as to why no wedding had taken place yet; the wife was happy to have a small wedding and ignore the friend's bs, as long as they got married, so they did. And now that whole thing is kind of a joke. :)
My question to you is, what does your boyfriend think about wedding ceremonies and such? For the most part, guys are not too happy with such things, but some guys are less happy about it than others. Other guys of course, insist on such things.but has your boyfriend ever discussed having a wedding and the cost of it, etc?
Also, you mention of people asking as to why he hasn't proposed. Is he aware of the people asking about the fact that is time for him to propose? Is your boyfriend ok with people asking that? Maybe he is the type that is pissed about people trying to dictate what he needs to do, so the more people dictate what needs to happen, the farther the proposal date gets pushed.5