I am! I have never been married and now I feel like that is something I will never do in life! So I would vote yes!
If you want please list your thoughts.. Some are because with the internet/cell phones everyone is cheating on each other and if they are married they don't seem to last these days.. It doesn't matter if your married 1 year to 20 years everyone is getting divorced these days! Makes me sick and afraid... Thank god I never made that step in life...
- YES I AM AFRAID OF MARRIAGE!Vote A
- No I am not afraid of marriageVote B
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I just recently got married (like 1/2 a year ago). It's not really hard to understand that marriage is "hard" and you do have to work at it.
My husband and I still some times "threaten" to leave each other when the going gets tough but you have to really like the other person and really see yourself happy with them for the rest of your life. You sacrifice some things for complete trust and companionship. People will see that marriage is hard and get divorces and that's what I was afraid of.
I think the hardest thing in my marriage is, me trying to convert my guy. He promised that he would change for me and he wants to be with me at any cost but I need him to convert completely to Christianity and dedicate his life to Christ. This has totally not happened yet, so we argue.
Right at the beginning of the relationship I do recommend that couples talk about important topics such as morals: no cheating, no lying, be open and honest, no degrading, no name calling, must both put in effort into the relationship
Questions like: will you change your lifestyle for me? must be at the beginning of the relationship
he or she will either say "yes I will change or no I will not" so that there will be no surprises later on in the relationship
for my guy he said "yes I'd do anything for you, no matter how great the request is" so that's why I am with him. He quit smoking, he is wearing different clothes, quit saying certain phrases, starts to talk like me, and he goes to church every single Sunday now!
other questions you may want to ask are:
and hopes and dreams?
YOU MUST ask at the beginning of the relationship
whatever answer they give you, you either take it or you don't and then you decide if it's to your satisfaction to stay in the relationship with that answer
do some research on what type of women/men you want to fall in love with!
for me it was:
-he has to treat me with respect, has to have morals
-has to have had no marriage before me, has to have no kids
-has to have a great job
-has to be willing to change if he smokes and doesn't go to church
-has to like my type of music, my type of lifestyle (no clubbing, no drinking!)
-has to be around my age (my guy is 2 weeks younger than me)
-has to have great family ties
-has to be smart and funny and I have to be comfortable and myself around him
-has to love me a lot, and listen to what I say and consider it!
-has to be wise with money
-has to be mature, and treat others with kindness and respect so that he commands respect himself
-has to be tall, dark and handsome (yes my guy is tall, tone, and very fit!, and he has dark hair)
there is a lot more but that's about it.
That's what I call a marriage.
Knowing what you want, getting it, and running with it! With a lot of work and committment... you shall be happy.1
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