32 years old. 11 year relationship. 3 year old child. He's a good guy and father. Engaged for several years, but no desire to marry him on my end. Is he the one...probably not. Lately, I've been thinking of seperating but feel the need to stay for my son's sake. I moved here and all of my friends are pretty much through him and have established a nice life together. A bit scared to give all that up. However, I'm not truly happy with him if there is such a thing. Is there a way to seperate and see without putting my son through much drama? How do I tell boyfriend so he will understand where I'm coming from without sounding like a heartless bitch? Ugh, it's been all-consuming lately. Help, need unbiased opinions please.
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It seems like have have already put thought into how you feel. You're valid for the way you feel you love your life but your just not in love with the person you made a life with anymore? Right? it sucks but you can't make someone love somebody, and to stay in a relationship just because of a child is not right. in the long run you will start to have resentment and hatred wich is not good and argue constantly, and the child will be the one who suffers. But no matter what the child will be effect with this out come, which sucks but you need to do what is best for you and your child. Do you think you can stick it out ? without it effecting you your guiy or child? then try and make I t work! But we are in the reality and sometime the right thing is not always the easiest thing to do! Good luck to you sorry that you feel the way you do. but you really need to think is this some type of mid life crisis or you really don't love him, if he is such a good guy and father I don't understand how you can stop loving him unless he has giving you reason? Maybe you never really did love him and still made a life with him and settled and now its caught up with you, and if that is the case, that's kind of sh*tty, but no one is perfect. we all make mistakes, but in the long run what ever you decide I hope all works out in the end for your child and you. But there will be drama there always is, Unless the man your with is truly on of those rare few who realizes there is nothing left & think of his son and not make things hard for either of you for your child. Good luck ...0