Because men can't be victims
What will that do
It's about forgiveness and about humour.It comes with age. With age comes wisdom.
Definitly. He should enjoy getting slapped in future as well
That may not be correct: I had repeatedly (permanently) stopped 'aggression' towards myself by being friendly in return. Your example from above puts 'the husband' at fault as well (how to get back... are we playing mind games, or are we having a life?) - if one is not part of the solution, one is part of the problem.
How is the husband at fault... he did'nt slap anyone nor did he took any violent decision. He is just the victim who got slapped and faced the humiliations
I... MEANT: he's holding a grudge. Would it not be better to just move on? As HE is 'innocent', ... SHE will figure it out as well.
Yes he will definitly move on. But here whatcan the wife do to normalize the situation and her husband
Well: my suggestion above is a 'peace-offer'. All she needs to do is to get back on track - and perhaps feel sorry for what happened?
Thats easy... just say sorry... simpleBut in reality it may not be that easy... for such n act
I see 'such an act' - and think: We live in times where to rip off someone is considered to be a smart business procedure. Where we are indifferent to starving people, or political injustice. Where we tolerate corrupt politicians as this just being common. And so many other DISTURBING tendencies.Where this woman just slipped her hand... because she has feelings for (and with) her man. Yes, uncontrolled and not correct - but still.
She slapped her husband because she has feelings for husband? So whenever she has feelings she wil show it by slapping her husband? How is it justified
Not justified. But explainable. Put it the other way round: if she had NO feelings - would she have a reason to 'slap'? /// I don't quite understand how this 'slapping' could become such a big thing in this conversation. What do YOU expect? - Drag her to court? Lock her up in the garage? Burn the Witch? /// People DO get hot (wrongly) and/or shout sometimes; people DO 'slap' (wrongly) sometimes. That does not destroy society. And it does not destroy a husband who has a red cheek for a few minutes.
Ok you said she slapped him because she has feelings. People also slap others if they get angry or disturbed. So what is he special for.If slapping him such a simple thing? Then she would come n slap the poor husband everytime she get angry by some others, n she will come and slap the husband for others fault, because she can't slap other... n give the plain excuse that she slapped him because she has feeling, so she will treathim like a punching bag. So, she should not feel anything bad, n instead feel proud? Then she could slaphim infront of the crouds proudly and enjoy the fun, while the husband suffers from pain and humiliations?So she did'nt do any wrong by slapping him? And she does"nt need to feel for a little regret? So she should not do anything after slapping her husband multiple times even in future?
I was more thinking of a one-time 'accident'. If it becomes a habit: that's a different story to me.
Even if its a one time incident, its still very critical... as its a surprise
So be it. In my own scenario she already had apologized; and meanwhile brought me THREE beers. So I more than forgave her.
Yes and that will encourage her to repeat it in future as well, as she knows the remedy of that damage. She will bring 5 beers next time.
Good point :D I'll start some provocations, then.
Yes as per your wish. But many husbands have self respect and will not put it in stake for the sake of some beers... which he could biy himself
But the thing is what can she do now
Say she isn’t gonna slap him anymore and apologize sincerely
And then stick by her word
But thats casual reaction. Will that be enough n easy
There is literally nothing else. He may not like it and that’s up to himYou can’t undo slapping someone so literally the only way to fix it is never do it again It’s casual to apologize it’s sincere to apologize and never do it again There is no cheap way to fix undermining trust.
May be. He has to be like a punching bag
Only if he’s an idiot
What other option does he have except this.
That's a bit of an overstatement, don't you think?
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Like what? Will he be interested in having dinner after that
If she denies
But what can the wife do to normalize the situation
But will that be enough
I mean you just never know. But it's all you have. I hope things work out for you:)
Yes hope so. But that impact will stay with the husband for long time
What can she do now
Nothing she's going to jail she will be divorced by the time she gets out I will have full custody of the kids so I think she paid enough
What will that do? She may again slap n apologize
Sometimes we deserve to be slapped
What will that do? She may slap again and apologize
Is she abusive?