When people are in love they devote their entire lives revolving around their husbands. For me, I view my future husband as a component of my life, not my entire life. I have my own life while he has his. I have my own thoughts and career separate from his. I run my own affairs. Of course we would be equally sharing responsibility of the child rearing. But we are two separate people , at the end of the day. I don’t devote everything of my life to him.