Does a guy have to be in a certain tax bracket to be husband material?

[Nawlins34]

I think you dodged a bullet here. It's possible she may be a gold digger, at the same time, very possible she's simply looking at your earning ability, your goals (to be a husband material) and did her own computations and said she's not with that. Either way, she was kind enough (in her own way) to let you know that you're not ready for her.

It doesn't matter from the standpoint of character. There are a lot of wealthy assholes. You're going to want to attract a woman that is into you, the person.

You may not be telling us everything here, but you're asking to be a "husband", be-careful (and be ready) what you ask for.

Does it end with just being a husband, or do you want to start a family? Because here is where "certain tax bracket" matters. It's about your ability to provide for a family that you're potentially wanting. When that is the case, unless the guy is showing signs of success already, I can't blame a woman for looking at what he is currently vs. what he could be (potential), because it wouldn't be wise to make a long-term decision based on potential that may never come.

If you're not making enough now, she saw that and thought, "He wants me to marry him, start a family, and because of his job/career, I'd also have to work". When you're in the "certain tax bracket" you're only asking a woman to be your wife. "Having kids" and also "working" are options.

What you're asking is mandatory, that isn't appealing to all women. Not all women are gold diggers, but EVERY sane woman will assess your ability to "provide for a family" if you're touting you want to be "husband material". She will if doesn't want the arguments in a marriage to be about money.

One final thing, She gave you a warning what you're doing right now may not be enough. Most people are silent about their complaints. I would reassess where you are in life and look to make improvements. That never hurts.

I hoped I helped, good luck and be safe.

[Anonymous]

Most girls, at least around me, seem to think this way, and up to a point, I get it. I don't even think that it's super shallow... depending on what you earn.

You earn 10K, yes, that will be tough if that's your potential. You earn 40K at 24, and you're likely to keep earning that evenly until retirement... then she's a bit shallow.

I also do find it strange that she's looking at marriage at the first date. Yes, some people might date with the hopes of looking for marriage, instead of dating just to date - I get that. But saying no to a second date just because you don't earn enough at the moment, is a bit shallow.

Plus, you're young. Assuming you're 24, you could realistically pull in "only" 25K, live with the parents, and it isn't a huge issue at the moment, as long as you're on some sort of positive trajectory.

Just forget about her, wish her luck and move on - find someone that clicks more naturally. I've had dates that seemed like interviews. I've had women insult me when I was actually doing really well financially because they couldn't get past a really limited view of something. Their choice. They didn't know me.

[Anonymous]

I mean yeah if you make minimum wage that’s not good but you don’t have to be a millionaire either

[severance]

No. But some people prioritize their partner's prospects.

[Goforit1010]

If a girl (or guy) does that to you, believe me, you're FAR better off w/o them! You want someone who loves you for who you are, not what your bank account is. Someone like that will divorce their husband in a nanosecond if she can't get her way. Doesn't sound like a very nice person to know period, let alone date or worse, marry!

Thats why the standard marriage vows say:
... for richer or POORER, for better or WORSE, in SICKNESS or health...

Anyone can do the better, richer, and health parts standing on their heads. It's those other parts that test your character and how strong the love is between you both. It's also WHY love is measured more by actions, than by emotion!

[sszatkow]

Guys with low incomes will find girls, but there are some girls who want a different lifestyle. They don’t want to worry about money ever. They want to pick the best school without caring about tuition. They never want to get fast food for their kids. They want a house. They want two suvs. Maybe they want a whole litter. For practical reasons, some girls will want to find a guy who makes money to tie the knot.

i have a cousin who just got her psychology PhD. Her boyfriend sells used cars. He’s trying really hard to get a promotion and run a used car lot so he can pop the question. I think the dynamic is understood among older men and older women compared to younger men and women. It’s a part of life.

[zeitgeist057]

Women will say "no", but actions speak louder than words.
Saying "tax bracket" is simplifying something that goes a bit deeper. A person who doesn't have a job either doesn't need on (rich) or is unmotivated for some other reason. If there is good reason to be motivated and they still are not motivated, then that says something about their character. That they aren't willing to put forth effort to meet basic needs, which is something that will come up in a marriage.

There will definitely be women who don't care a lick, and who may have similar low motivation levels or low self esteem and so they are specifically looking for someone "in their league" or that they can rescue in order to boost their own percieved status.

[Gafgorkion]

Girls who actually care that much about money aren't actually wife material, so she did you a favor by weeding herself out. Girls like that will generally end up in an unhappy marriage and probably divorced.

[JSmuve]

That cunt was just looking for some poor guy to mooch off of. She'd just manipulate you into buying her expensive shit and fund an instagram lifestyle that she can't afford on her own. Then she'd complain that you're not doing enough and eventually leave you while taking at least half of your things. You dodged a bullet there, bro.

[Bandit74]

Probably but that varies from girl to girl. The vast majority do want a guy who make at least as much as they do or perhaps 50% more. Very few legitimately expect to land a millionaire tho.

I think looks matter more tho. You're better off being fuck buddy mater than husband material. The husband is usually just the boring financially stable loser they settle for when the fun years are gone and they want someone to split responsibilities with (buying house raising kids etc)

[Dchrls78104]

If the girl is a high maintenance, gold-digging ho, yes; she rejected you because you cannot afford her and you dodged a bullet. Anything that is sold depreciates in value, and some things more quickly than others.

[codydevan88]

big fat no. just another pleasure seeker addicted to power and money. she's clearly looking for a symbol of status. not a person.

[jshm2]

You're confused, kid.

A date IS a sort of interview, where you both make an assessment of the other.

[Massageman]

You can make a lot of money "on the top line", but due to various tax breaks and loopholes, you can offset those gains. (You pay tax on the basis of your adjusted gross income or AGI.

[Unit1]

Yes, for gold diggers only.

Who wants that? Sugar daddies. You and I aren't one of them.

[Wise4myage]

That would a high priority for a gold digger.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Not true. Dump her. She’s a gold digger.

[mindNsoul]

wow she's rude

[SuccessfulHornDog]

It does matter to some women and not to others