Asking for friend: Dating a Doctor and his parents only marry a Doctor and I’m a lawyer which isn’t good enough for them what to do?

Question

Asking for a friend: My boyfriend is a doctor and we cannot get married as he claims his parents won’t accept a girl who isn’t a doctor. They are forcing him to meet other girls who are doctors via arrange marriage. He loves me a lot and wants to marry me but his parents are controlling him and he doesn’t want to disappoint his parents. They are a strict Pakistani Muslim family and so am I. He wants to marry me but also please his parents and they are not very accepting of me.

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Answer 1

Studdsaaron

Xper 2

My opinion for your friend: You should sit and talk to your boyfriend. Ask him if he can convince his parents for you. Will you be living in your in-law’s house? If yes, even if he convinces his parents, you may have to work hard to impress your in-laws, because it is their wish and a dream as well to see a doctor as their daughter-in-law. Have you ever met his parents? If not, he may introduce you to his parents, either directly, or with some excuse. Do not speak or act unnecessarily in order to convince and impress them. Keep it subtle.
If nothing works, they want nothing but a doctor, it will be a sensible move to move on.
Whenever you do not get what you want, always remember that God has heard what you have not. God has seen what you can not. Have faith in him and never stop and look back. Keep moving forward. Life is a journey. If you ever stop, you will only waste your time and energy.
Be optimistic.
Good luck.

Answer 2

slatyb | 210 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

You are both adults. If he is not willing to marry you, the reason isn't important. Time to date other people.

Answer 3

Hangry22

Yoda

Ask him to convince his parents how marrying a doctor may affect his self esteem and ego as in she will try to act like she knows all medical stufff and try to out do him. She may try to dominate him. His family may not be able to handle his son losing control

Alwayreckles93

22 d
Simple no woman should be dealing with a man child if he can't cut the cord. Lets be honest here this man is a coward if he can't put his relationship first.
Hangry22

22 d
@Alwayreckles93 obviously he is a coward for loving a girl knowing he will not go against his parents wishes. Had she asked to stay or dump him, dump him would have been my answer. But her question was what can be done to marry and please the parents to which i answered. I have seen such couples restricted by family and religion values but loving and giving their all to be together. Some had balls to rebel for their love. Love isn't something that can be shoved off just because a guy is a coward. They want ways on how to allow both parties to have their peace not one party

Answer 4

Alwayreckles93

Simple no woman should be dealing with a man child if he can't cut the cord. Lets be honest here this man is a coward if he can't put his relationship first.

Answer 5

Hangry22

@Alwayreckles93 obviously he is a coward for loving a girl knowing he will not go against his parents wishes. Had she asked to stay or dump him, dump him would have been my answer. But her question was what can be done to marry and please the parents to which i answered. I have seen such couples restricted by family and religion values but loving and giving their all to be together. Some had balls to rebel for their love. Love isn't something that can be shoved off just because a guy is a coward. They want ways on how to allow both parties to have their peace not one party

Answer 6

Alwayreckles93

Xper 5

Tell your friend both of you are adults and if he can not manage the situation and revile against his choices because he is afraid of mommy and daddy. Do not waste your time break it off and time to look for a new man.