Will you choose to get married for financial gain/social status, children, religious/societal expectations, or love?

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I am curious why people want to get married, especially since the divorce rate has gotten pretty high. If people settle with someone because they are comfortable rather than 'soulmates' or if they marry for other reasons it would makes sense. I personally will only marry a woman who loves me for me but I know some people have different motivations for marrying someone. I'm wondering why you got married or why you want to get married.

Will you choose to get married for financial gain/social status, children, religious/societal expectations, or love?

To gain Money/a higher Social Status

To have children

For Religious/Societal expectations

For love

Other

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Answer 1

Prettygurl12 | 594 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

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I didn't marry my husband for any reason other than that I love him.

I don't have the grace and poise and whatever for social climbing and don't have any interest in it. My husband is a full time student and up until last summer, had never earned a dollar in his life. We've been together 9 years so clearly money wasn't a prioriry lol

I don't want children so... that's not a reason.

I am religious and we did grow up in a society that expects you to get married (it's still VERY taboo in our hometown to live together/have sex before marriage) but I didn't marry him for either of those reasons.

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Answer 2

Brainsbeforebeauty | 134 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Influencer

If you get married for any other reason other than the last one"love", well those are the marriages that tend to end in divorce 🤷🏼‍♀️

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Brainsbeforebeauty

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Thank for mh

Answer 3

Brainsbeforebeauty

Thank for mh

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MrMilti

Yoda

I am getting married, because I just want to, but also for all the benefits.

I always wanted to become a husband and a father.
I also like things that are "solid" and not just convenient.
I want to introduce her as my "wife", not only my "girlfriend", for social status.
There are many financial benefits when it comes to taxes.
It makes it easier by law, like having rights for future children aso.

In the end, I only see benefits. That is, when you really have found the right partner, which I am very sure about. Took me long enough to find her, with way too many candidates before her...

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Answer 5

Jamie05rhs | 386 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

Hell No to the first three. Definitely YES for love!

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Jamie05rhs

1 y
For the record, I'm not opposed to having children. I just don't see that as the reason to get married.
Jamie05rhs

1 y
Thanks for the MHO.

Answer 6

Jamie05rhs

For the record, I'm not opposed to having children. I just don't see that as the reason to get married.

Answer 7

Jamie05rhs

Thanks for the MHO.

Answer 8

jiffybutter

Xper 2

They do it for all of the reasons you listed. The divorce rate has more to do with the fact that it has become more acceptable and accessible to divorce but people themselves have not changed. Marrying someone who only loves you for you is a noble quest but a bit of a misnomer hahaha get it misnomer? What I mean is that if you have the perfect body is that loving you for you? Is your money you? Is your job you? If you went crazy do you expect your beloved to stand by you till death? Would you do it for her? I mean, this loving you for you is a fine standard but it should be placed in proper context in your mind so you aren't surprised at the real versus the perception when surprises occur.

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Asker

1 y
I get what you mean. I actually know exactly what I want in a relationship. Basically just someone who is willing to stick by me no matter what and is willing to put our relationship first because that's what I will do for her. I don't want to end up like my parents who are only married by title but are otherwise platonic roommates who never get along.
Asker

1 y
And no my money or job isn't what I mean. I mean my personality, values, actions, etc. Just me as an individual person. I avoid gold diggers like the plague. I was too naive and dated one. I was too young to realize she was just using me for her own personal gain and didn't give a sh*t about me. I will never make that mistake again.
jiffybutter

1 y
I wish you success. Just remember to be open minded about peoples attitudes. They change as factors around them change. It is also vital that you two share a common goal and system of beliefs. Putting someone first is not a belief it is a factor subject to influence and attitudinal change. No relationship lasts without all of this even if that system is simply the shared idea of the platonic convenience of your parents. Love also only lasts with the open mindedness. Love doesn't overlook something wrong or indiscreet but it does understand and decide based on the totality of circumstances and subsequent changes.
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jiffybutter

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Your personality, values, actions are all intermingled with the material. How can someone love you for just your personality. It would mean it does not matter if you become mentally incapacitated or if you cannot provide. It would mean you become more important than children's survival. Gold digger is a term thrown around and misunderstood. Only caring about $ is a gold digger but I'm sure you know women have varying expectations of how much $ their partner should make. That doesn't make someone a gold digger. It merely means they assign high value to security which means they're normal because that is written in a woman's genetic code. So for her to love you no matter if you made zero dollars but had no cause to make zero dollars there would have to be more to that story. This is why I said be open minded if you really want what you're saying. Otherwise, you'll end up like the billion other dreamers who said what you said and with more vigor but learned they didn't really get it. How can it be that you will be the only one who makes it when the billion other moops didn't make it. That's the same odds as winning the lottery but in my experience of speaking with so many people, I never met one person yet who ran the whole field and made it. I've people who lied about it though and I found out later or people who didn't know something about their partner at the time.
Asker

1 y
Maybe you can't comprehend something like selfless love because you have never experienced it or are not capable of feeling it but it exists. The best marriages are formed from putting your spouse first. I just want to be with someone who will not leave me for superficial reasons like money or social status. I don't care about any of that. If all women cares about herself and her own financial gain above all else she is a gold digger. People like that just take with no regard for others and I have NO respect for them. I will always put my spouse first when I am married. If I can't find a woman who can reciprocate those feelings, I would rather be alone. I will not settle for a loveless marriage like many others. I don't deserve that.

Answer 9

Asker

I get what you mean. I actually know exactly what I want in a relationship. Basically just someone who is willing to stick by me no matter what and is willing to put our relationship first because that's what I will do for her. I don't want to end up like my parents who are only married by title but are otherwise platonic roommates who never get along.

Answer 10

Asker

And no my money or job isn't what I mean. I mean my personality, values, actions, etc. Just me as an individual person. I avoid gold diggers like the plague. I was too naive and dated one. I was too young to realize she was just using me for her own personal gain and didn't give a sh*t about me. I will never make that mistake again.

Answer 11

jiffybutter

I wish you success. Just remember to be open minded about peoples attitudes. They change as factors around them change. It is also vital that you two share a common goal and system of beliefs. Putting someone first is not a belief it is a factor subject to influence and attitudinal change. No relationship lasts without all of this even if that system is simply the shared idea of the platonic convenience of your parents. Love also only lasts with the open mindedness. Love doesn't overlook something wrong or indiscreet but it does understand and decide based on the totality of circumstances and subsequent changes.

Answer 12

jiffybutter

Your personality, values, actions are all intermingled with the material. How can someone love you for just your personality. It would mean it does not matter if you become mentally incapacitated or if you cannot provide. It would mean you become more important than children's survival. Gold digger is a term thrown around and misunderstood. Only caring about $ is a gold digger but I'm sure you know women have varying expectations of how much $ their partner should make. That doesn't make someone a gold digger. It merely means they assign high value to security which means they're normal because that is written in a woman's genetic code. So for her to love you no matter if you made zero dollars but had no cause to make zero dollars there would have to be more to that story. This is why I said be open minded if you really want what you're saying. Otherwise, you'll end up like the billion other dreamers who said what you said and with more vigor but learned they didn't really get it. How can it be that you will be the only one who makes it when the billion other moops didn't make it. That's the same odds as winning the lottery but in my experience of speaking with so many people, I never met one person yet who ran the whole field and made it. I've people who lied about it though and I found out later or people who didn't know something about their partner at the time.

Answer 13

Asker

Maybe you can't comprehend something like selfless love because you have never experienced it or are not capable of feeling it but it exists. The best marriages are formed from putting your spouse first. I just want to be with someone who will not leave me for superficial reasons like money or social status. I don't care about any of that. If all women cares about herself and her own financial gain above all else she is a gold digger. People like that just take with no regard for others and I have NO respect for them. I will always put my spouse first when I am married. If I can't find a woman who can reciprocate those feelings, I would rather be alone. I will not settle for a loveless marriage like many others. I don't deserve that.

Answer 14

Anonymous

Finally a sensible person who understands that marrying for just kids is so different than marrying for love.
I'll never marry a man who will be with me for kids. Life's too short to waste my time on that crap.
I just want a partner not the outcome which especially is a personal choice.

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Answer 15

Anonymous

1. D.) For love, definitely.
2. B.) To have children.
3. E.) Other.

I'm not religious and I don't care about social expectations, so C.) is irrelevant to me.
I wouldn't marry for money or a higher social status with a person who I don't find physically attractive, thus, A.) is also not a valid option for me in most cases.

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Answer 16

Anonymous

For love mainly, but also because logistically it makes sense in terms of legal stuff... I want to marry my partner because he makes me happy and I have determined him as a high quality mate...
I have my own money and technically I'm an heiress so why would I need his money and social status (not that he has much XD )

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Answer 17

Ifriqyan

Xper 5

All of the above.
I love the man I'm currently talking to and we're hoping to get married within a year but I don't think Love is necessary for a successful marriage. I think common vision and respect are more important than love, love is cherry on the cake.

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Answer 18

Yads_Is_Back

Guru

LOVE, the way it should be that Americans don’t want smh

Family too. I do want kids. Still doesn’t prevail over love

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KrakenAttackin

1 y
"Love" is a hallucination.

Answer 19

KrakenAttackin

"Love" is a hallucination.

Answer 20

just_a_potato | 61 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Yoda

I only want to get married if I'm sure I want to spend the rest of my life with them, not just the first 5-10 years and have a bitter divorce. Also i'll probably be pregnant before my wedding day not going to lie 😳

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Answer 21

EmmaMary | 315 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

Right pay attention please, I married my husband for one reason, and one reason only...LOVE.
The rest of your options simply don't apply to me whatsoever.
THE END.

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Answer 22

treselle

Xper 1

I want to marry for stability, to have children (I’m sorry I don’t want to be anyone’s “babymomma” while we all have different last names in the same house), for the joining of resources/families, and for love. I don’t want to do it for the first few reasons if I don’t have the last reason.

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Answer 23

HOAAH | 195 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

I married him because i knew him from grade school and just felt very comfortable around him. He liked me too so that's a factor.

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Suziedicostah

Xper 5

I will choose to marry for love because, other things mentioned here, I believe are achievable if you take some efforts for those. But love is something which is beyond everything.

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Answer 25

AdithyaR | 70 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Yoda

Well Pride and Prejudice is one of my favourite novels so I don't see myself ever marrying for anything other than love.
Additionally I've often thought of never getting married just to mess with societal expectations.

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Answer 26

Starlight_Whimsy

Xper 4

Love, always. The only exception to this is if it’s a mutual understanding marriage for financial reasons, as in both parties are aware of that fact and it’s not one taking advantage of the other

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Answer 27

whatdoyouwantt

Xper 7

No getting married is stupid. You just lose money and nerves in the end

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SoapySandwich

Xper 4

I would only get married if my partner desired it. For me there is no other reason really.

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Answer 29

Mia-Wallace

Explorer

We cohabited for love, but got married to have a family of our own.

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Answer 30

Don-_-Don

Explorer

I don't like the idea of marriage myself, but if I ever would to get married it would be for love and ti start a family. Mainly to start a family, the love is just part of that.

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Answer 31

Anonymous

I will do Marriage because of social status love, children

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Dchrls78104 | 275 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

I'd marry only for love; without it, every other reason would be a stupid one.

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Answer 33

Anonymous

For stability and money because honestly relationship doesn't interest me and I'm pretty lazy so I have a low paid job but can't get another because of my low motivation.

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