I am married. And you know when you know. I knew my wife since middle school. We dated other people and tried to be together twice but we would always break up for reasons, (mostly because we were young and stupid) but I knew she was the one. We finally got our sh*t together and married 15 years after we met. We have two beautiful kids and she is my ride or die. Always loving, always got my back and always open with me and I for her. We know each other like the backs of our hands. I know that she is honest and caring and a good mother. She knows that I try my best and she tries her best. We've seen the worst of each other and the best.
She was one of those "I'll never be married" types "its just a piece of paper." After we got married she told me something. She said she also knew that if she did ever say yes, that I would be the one she'd marry.
The day we got married I never questioned a thing. She apparently didn't either. But she did give me a chuckle. Her father told me when he walked her down the aisle of our church, she clutched his arm tightly. He said he told her "he's a good guy and he'll take care of you, don't worry." She told him "Dad, I'm not worried about marrying him, I love him. I'm worried I'm gonna break my legs with these shoes."
She's still right next to me for everything.
Find a good woman that inspires you to be a good man. Not do everything for you. Not gonna lie though some days are rough, but the grass is always greener where you water it.
@lampstamp love this - the grass is greener where you water it. wow.
and your wife sounds like a real one especially with the heels part. lol
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It's normal to get cold feet before the wedding because it's a life changing event. If you are conceptually not sure about marriage, perhaps keep thinking about it. Many people on here will tell you all about the terrible statistics for marriage and what divorce does to you. Even if you don't divorce, it may not be as great as you hoped. But when it works, it really works. And what else are you going to do with your life? Me personally, no doubt, it was something I expected to do and wanted to do as the time became right. But this was before the age of internet and all the scary stories.
If you’re unsure about the one you wanna marry, that makes sense. But to be unsure of marriage in general is frightening if your future partner is all in
u not supposed 2 be sure about anything like dis in ur life. but sumone who always folds their hand in poker only bleeds money very slowly. of course u dont wake up every day and say, this is the woman of my dreams. sumtimes she piss u off in ways that other people can't piss u off. its like she pissed u off in a really unique way. but the other days u can't imagine what ud be doing without her if u got a decent one
u get a great woman and she becomes ur foundation. like foundation that comes with sum requirements. even a skyscraper can't lean over too far without collapsing. but it can withstand earthquakes. u know u have a good one when, in ur darkest times, u want her to be around, and not kick her outta da house
Exterminatore | 86 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.
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I think that’s normal. The question I think to ask based on 1st Corinthians 7 is do you have sexual desires. If so, probably marriage is the right move for you.
I don't care for that sort of stuff much. I just like sex. Lol
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It's a sign that you shouldn't be married now, or a sign that you haven't met anyone you want to marry. If marriage feels like a loss of freedom then you definitely should not be married.
Yeah, that's what worries me. I love being free and do my own thing without having someone bug me or asking me for favors etc but due to my religion I can't sleep around neither to get my sexual needs met. I see marriage just to get sex only.
Historically, marrying to have sex has not worked very well for people. Accordingly a large majority of people do not wait until marriage, at least in Western countries. Most Christian denominations, and most branches of Judaism accept pre-marital sex. Maybe you should pray for guidance. It would be a greater sin to make a failed marriage as many people would be hurt -- you, your wife, and any children you might have.
KrakenAttackin | 196 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.
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I had concerns going into my marriage and I HOPED she would calm down once we were married. I was totally wrong. Not only did she not lesson the crazy, she tripled it. Big lessons for me: 1) Hope ain't a strategy. 2) Listen to that little voice telling you what you already know to be true. 3) Never, ever, get married again. I wish I had never married in the first place.
@Jack9949 "Society" has made marriage completely unpalatable for men. The laws are so incredibly biased against men that you are surrendering any power you have once you get married. I could write a book about how women change once they get married (no longer acting) or how they manipulate through "accidental" pregnancy, but I am too tired.
Marriage offer NOTHING to men, nothing whatsoever.
@Jack9949 I'm glad to hear that, but you have no idea what has gone on in their marriage. Perhaps they have always been happily married, but that would make them the extreme minority of married couples.
Because I know I will be bugged. Ex. Lets go to Home Depot, let's go out to this place when I don't feel like it. All the talking and emotional support etc. I don't want to be bothered with all that especially when I don't want to be bugged.
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