Question, especially to married people: If you are unsure about marriage is that a sign marriage isn't for you or is it normal to feel like that?

[Lampstamp]

I am married. And you know when you know. I knew my wife since middle school. We dated other people and tried to be together twice but we would always break up for reasons, (mostly because we were young and stupid) but I knew she was the one. We finally got our sh*t together and married 15 years after we met. We have two beautiful kids and she is my ride or die. Always loving, always got my back and always open with me and I for her. We know each other like the backs of our hands. I know that she is honest and caring and a good mother. She knows that I try my best and she tries her best. We've seen the worst of each other and the best.

She was one of those "I'll never be married" types "its just a piece of paper." After we got married she told me something. She said she also knew that if she did ever say yes, that I would be the one she'd marry.

The day we got married I never questioned a thing. She apparently didn't either. But she did give me a chuckle. Her father told me when he walked her down the aisle of our church, she clutched his arm tightly. He said he told her "he's a good guy and he'll take care of you, don't worry." She told him "Dad, I'm not worried about marrying him, I love him. I'm worried I'm gonna break my legs with these shoes."

She's still right next to me for everything.

Find a good woman that inspires you to be a good man. Not do everything for you. Not gonna lie though some days are rough, but the grass is always greener where you water it.

[Anonymous]

It's normal to get cold feet before the wedding because it's a life changing event.
If you are conceptually not sure about marriage, perhaps keep thinking about it.
Many people on here will tell you all about the terrible statistics for marriage and what divorce does to you. Even if you don't divorce, it may not be as great as you hoped. But when it works, it really works. And what else are you going to do with your life?
Me personally, no doubt, it was something I expected to do and wanted to do as the time became right. But this was before the age of internet and all the scary stories.

[DizzyDesii]

Nah, I dont fear marriage. I’d love to be a wife and have a husband. I just hope that we stay faithful, respectful and true to our vows

[pretty_bad]

Dont fear marriage fear getting married to the wrong mother fucker

[TooDrunk4Sex]

u not supposed 2 be sure about anything like dis in ur life. but sumone who always folds their hand in poker only bleeds money very slowly. of course u dont wake up every day and say, this is the woman of my dreams. sumtimes she piss u off in ways that other people can't piss u off. its like she pissed u off in a really unique way. but the other days u can't imagine what ud be doing without her if u got a decent one

[Exterminatore]

I think that’s normal. The question I think to ask based on 1st Corinthians 7 is do you have sexual desires. If so, probably marriage is the right move for you.

[slatyb]

It's a sign that you shouldn't be married now, or a sign that you haven't met anyone you want to marry. If marriage feels like a loss of freedom then you definitely should not be married.

[KrakenAttackin]

I had concerns going into my marriage and I HOPED she would calm down once we were married. I was totally wrong. Not only did she not lesson the crazy, she tripled it. Big lessons for me: 1) Hope ain't a strategy. 2) Listen to that little voice telling you what you already know to be true. 3) Never, ever, get married again. I wish I had never married in the first place.

[luvstoned4him]

same here. Its like I wanna and then I dont wanna

I believe if I do however, it would take someone really special for me to wanna go through that

[Jack9949]

I can’t understand why you’d be worried if you met the right person. Marriage doesn’t have to be an added burden.

[Uptowngirl88]

I feel this way because today society is so screwed up. I see so many happily married people getting cheated on

[Zodiac10]

I want to get married. What I just hope is I find the right person.