People who have planned wedding: what makes it so stressful?

Question

Boyfriend and I are thinking of marriage and I keep hearing how horribly stressful planning a wedding is. We only plan on maybe 50-75 people (if that).

Answer 1

NamerOfStars

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I've never planned a wedding, but I watched my sister do it, and a big part is that there's an entire industry devoted to making planners panic about every tiny inconsequential decision. I've been to... let's say two dozen weddings in my life (it's probably somewhere around there) and while I've loved some and hated others, I couldn't tell you anything about say, the table centerpieces at any of them, except the one where my cousin got drunk and ate the crepe-paper flowers at our table. And yet in just ONE of the catalogues my sister showed me, there were pages and PAGES of minor variations in centerpiece options. A wedding is basically just a big formal party to celebrate your union (putting religious things about it aside), but society hypes it up to be the most important day of your life (your kids being born? The time you made contact with an alien species? The day the sky tore asunder and Elvis descended from Heaven to personally crown you as the new King of Rock 'N Roll? Irrelevant, by comparison.).

I'm sure it CAN be a much milder, more pleasant affair, but brace yourselves for people trying to make it otherwise through social pressure.

Shuri

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This is what I thought, honestly. I already know what I want, and we are trying to be financially responsible. Like in lieu of flowers, I’m having floating candle centerpieces. Our theme is enchanted lake. We want maybe 50-75 guests. And I might end up doing the wedding cake myself since I’m a cake decorator (though I think that may be too stressful).

I’m not trying to have a wedding to outdo people. I like simple and subtle.
NamerOfStars

13 d
Good. That's a solid path to hanging on to your sanity.

Answer 2

Shuri

This is what I thought, honestly. I already know what I want, and we are trying to be financially responsible. Like in lieu of flowers, I’m having floating candle centerpieces. Our theme is enchanted lake. We want maybe 50-75 guests. And I might end up doing the wedding cake myself since I’m a cake decorator (though I think that may be too stressful).

I’m not trying to have a wedding to outdo people. I like simple and subtle.

Answer 3

NamerOfStars

Good. That's a solid path to hanging on to your sanity.

Answer 4

btbc92 | 439 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

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Making sure everyone does their intended jobs when assigned.
Making sure nobody involved in the wedding doesn't have 2nd thoughts or can't make it. Need replacements at the wrong time.
Making sure everything is done on TIME.
Making sure you are actually fit and ready for your wedding: have a gown, jewelry, etc.
Everything is legally set prior to the wedding date.
Your future spouse needs to be ready.
Most importantly... are YOU ready?

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