For your future wedding, How many guests would you want and how much are you willing to spend?

[proNutro]

I’ve not thought too much about this but enough to know what I want. I was a small wedding. Only closer family and friends. So, his and my parents, siblings, close friends and if he had close uncles and aunts then that’s fine. I wouldn’t want a wedding of more than 50 people. I wouldn’t want to have an expensive wedding either. I hope to be living in England when I get married. I’m not fussy on a venue. Could literally climb a hill and do it there. I’d have my wedding in the back garden and I’d be over the moon. My mom had her wedding in our garden and it was absolutely beautiful.
I don’t want any bridesmaids and if I did have one then it would be my partners sister (if he has one).
I don’t care where I go for honeymoon as long as it’s far away from family and everything. We could drive a few hours away to stay for a while and I’d be happy. As for engagement rings, I would want something dainty. NZ$2000 is the most I’d let be spent on a ring and then the wedding ring could be cheap bands. A friend of mine actually bought NZ$60 bands (pink and blue) and they put those on when they got married.
I don’t care for a fancy car that drives you away to your honeymoon.
About a dress and suit... I don’t even know how much wedding dresses cost but there’s no way in hell I’d spend a lot of money on a dress I’m going to wear just once.


Let’s just say I don’t want to spend a lot of money on a wedding or honeymoon.

[midnightmoon05]

Around 2005...$30K - $35K? Don't remember. Including our rings. $50K? 125-150 people? The pictures - my wedding hall/garden... also had peacocks walking around... was beautiful

Plus honeymoon? No idea... I am really bad with numbers.
Next wedding? Not sure... I like small, intimate elegant settings.
A beautiful garden, with lots of flowers and butterflies.

[Aethereal]

It depends on the country I guess. My cousin got married in 2018 and the reception party was very good. Nice location, great food and drink, delicious (but not very big) cake. The whole thing, including her dress probably didn't go beyond $5000. I think the equivalent event in the U. S. would have cost close to $15,000 though. Things in the U. S. are so deathly expensive.

I'll most likely end up getting married in my fiance's country. I would never want a large wedding. More than 50 people would make me uncomfortable. I'd rather we only had the most important family and friends in attendance, especially since all of mine will have to fly over there (some at my expense). I don't think a big, expensive party is necessary for the actual wedding. I feel having one of those is better arranged as an anniversary milestone (e. g. every 5 years).

Assuming we end up going for a serious reception after the wedding, I'm quite certain we could arrange the equivalent of a $25,000 event in the U. S. for less than $10,000 where we are.

[OlderAndWiser]

I got married in 2011. The wedding cost us (me) around $20,000. It was a church wedding with a reception at a separate location and a buffet dinner for 130 people with a live band playing for four hours.

You would be surprised at how many "incidental" items there are and how quickly they add up. I would probably not repeat that experience if I married again but I would still celebrate the day in style. It would be nice but I don't need to have all the first cousins on both sides in attendance. And I don't need to have a seated dinner for 130 people. Hors d'oeuvres and drinks would be just fine. I don't need to have a live 5-piece band. Hopefully, it's the last wedding you'll ever have and you should celebrate it as such. . . but don't go crazy, either!

[Prettygurl12]

I wanted to get married in my parents' backyard with just close friends and family and then have a pool party and roast hot dogs and burgers.

My husband wanted to have a massive church wedding and a giant party reception with as many guests as we could invite.

So... we spent 25K on it and invited like 300 people and he got his giant wedding. 😂 He picked the colors and the cake and a lot of the details lol I just showed up 🤷🏼‍♀️

But I got my husband out of it and I'd been wanting to marry him since the day I met him so I would have invited a million people if that's what he wanted. I'm here for the marriage, not just the wedding.

[jennifer_bloom]

I don't want a big ceremony cause I am very anti social and I had publicity - I would have an intimate celebration with maybe 20 - 40 guests but with CoVid wedding parties where I live are banned

[ShortCircuit]

Certainly no more than $10,000. Don't get me wrong, I don't just wanna get hitched in Vegas. I do want my wedding to be special and memorable. All I'm saying is that I'm reasonably confident I can make that happen with less than $10,000. If I have to find a random beach and start setting shit up myself, so be it.

As for how many guests I'd want? Well, I'd at least send invitations to my whole extended family, seeing as I don't have beef with any of them. So that's about 50 people if all of them show. Plus my 20 or so friends. So 70. Assuming my partner had roughly the same number of friends and family, that'd be about 140 people total.

[FocusOfSuspicion]

I definitely don’t want one of those big monstrosities with tons of people. I want maybe 20-25 people, I guess it depends on how big the families are. I’ll totally cook the food myself. Bake and ice a few small cakes at home. The reception should mirror Thanksgiving dinner: at home, with family, good food, good times. Simple simple simple. I don’t need an expensive dress. I just don’t like all the crazy, stuff. I’m not a princess, I don’t live in a castle, I don’t want a formal ball for my wedding.

[sheikalana]

No guests. I'm not gonna invite anyone and I'm not going to announce that I'm getting married in that date or this date. It's just gonna be me and my future husband, our testimonies and probably a photographer. I want this day to be just for the two of us. I'm not planning to spend much, I'll wear something nice a dress/suit that I've already designed, nice shoes, nice make up, a nice hairstyle, a nice lingerie and then I plan on having a nice lunch/dinner with my husband at a private place just for the two of us, we'll spend the night in a nice hotel and the next day we leave for our honeymoon.

[SomeBlondeChick]

Coming from a well-off family I could easily afford all the bells & whistles. My cousin five years ago got married to the cost of $50,000 as she just *had* to have a fashion designer family associate make her her dress.

But I wouldn't spend anymore than 5,000 on a small wedding of close family & friends. Why spend anymore than that on a single event? What's the difference? Aside from the fact the more expensive the wedding the more pretentious, and often shallow & insecure, the individuals. Within a year, after all, most of the guests would have been to so many weddings, etc. the expensive one is no more relevant than the one held for what $500 in an Elvis chapel.

[Jjpayne]

Spending is tough... But I'd say overall, a new cheap picnic area with professional mosquito spray around the area if possible. Then just having a quick set up maybe someone with a flat bed truck could bring some of the important pieces. With portable comfortable chairs and white long carpet. I'd even go as far as to rent connectable flooring for the ground for where the wedding is. Then we could either rent a hotel area or someplace else...

Now thinking... It's tough because you want both a place for early afternoon going into a late night... I think it really depends on the resources and time you have at hand.

One of my friends recently was given their church building for free to them. They just had to supply the food and equipment for the wedding and I would be open to ideas like that.

I think it's less about how much you spend and more about being smart with money while still having an unforgettable experience.

[Inexpensivefurniture]

If money wasn't a problem and my partner wanted a big, expensive wedding, I'd happily help plan one. But I don't need a big wedding and my family has always been poor so the idea of spending so much money on one day just doesn't seem worth it to me.
I'd be perfectly fine with a backyard wedding with 40 or less of our closest family and friends. I wouldn't spend more than a couple hundred dollars on the rings, and the cake could be from Walmart for all that it matters to me. It's not about the venue or the food or the clothes to me, I would just be so excited to be marrying my partner that I wouldn't care if it was on a budget.
I'd rather save that money and spend it on a cool destination honeymoon. It sound like a lot more fun to spend the money on celebrating our marriage just with each other than using it to feed 300 guests

[TheLawAroundHere]

$15,000 for a simple, elegant wedding? Not in my world, sugar britches. Hahaha!

My wife and i (both, our first) got married on about $250. I shit you not.

And we are still just as married as the folks that dropped half a house's worth of cash on the day.

by the way... my first truck, it cost me $1,500. 1/10 of the basic wedding. This truck was 19 years old with 290,000 miles on it. I ran it for 10 years, putting another 125,000 miles on it.

1/10 of the basic wedding. This stuff really adds up. And people pay it. Always have, always will.

[Charli7]

My budget would be high on mine if I only invite closest, longest friends and family, their spouses and children there would be 150-175 guests just on my side. I have a large family. $15,000-$20,000 to cover hors d'oeuvres, a beautiful venue, dinner and drinks, flowers, dress/accessories, cake, and dj/band. I'd also consider cutting down the guest list to do a destination wedding. The honeymoon is not included in the original wedding budget, but for a destination wedding where we could also honeymoon would still be a high budget.

[Unit1]

The less money is spent on weddings, the longer the marriage will last.

Wedding items have a tendency to overcharge their customers. One trick to circumvent overpaying is by not saying "it's for our wedding" but "it's for a special occasion, which is our anniversary".

I will never marry. People, that are spending $31,500 on a single day are clearly part of the bottom 80%, who aren't rich. With that money i'd have a pretty good start for a mortgage or a straight down payment for a permanent home.

This is where the rich and the poor part ways.

[jamesgoldman]

It'll be a big event I expect with family, friends and business contacts so probably 400 people unless I marry an orphan so a venue that can cover that

Maybe an open bar or if not at least cover the first drink or two

I'd want a Rolls Royce as a wedding car

A decent cake probably triple tier

Gold or platinum wedding bands

I want a Brioni suit for the occasion so my wife can have a similar budget for a dress

All in I would expect to spend £30-50k

[ajeazyk]

The number of guys saying they never wanna get married is hilarious. And it keeps going up. there's just no point to getting married and the risk of losing half of all you own on top of having to pay more money on top of that.
It just isn't worth it.

[VanityFair748]

I hope I won't have a wedding in the future, I'm already married lol. But my answers would be none and NONE. I didn't celebrate wedding and me and my husband both weren't willing to spend even 1 dollar for that stuff. Happy that my husband didn't want a wedding neither.

[EmmaMary]

We had 100 family, friends and guests at our wedding ceremony and reception, and then a further 150 in the evening.
The totally cost came close to £30k of which we paid £10k and both our parents contributed the rest equally.
Our belated honeymoon which we took early last year to Australia and New Zealand cost a further £12k.

[JDavid25]

Less than $1000 weddin.. It's a business that thrives off of people wantin to show off.. I just wanna get married to my beautiful future wife and get it over with.. 😎😌..
"Back when i was getting married".. When was you ever gettin married Desii?

[Reaperbot666]

not likely to get married in the future with how current laws are set up regarding relationship, marriage and divorce. but if I was to do so then it would be a quick courthouse wedding. maybe have a small party afterwards for friends and family to gather potluck style. rather spend more money on a house and/or the honeymoon over spending it on the wedding itself.

[DavidFox]

It’s going to be over $20,000. It’s the only time I’ll be getting married and would like to limit the attendance to 100 people or less. Open to throwing a post wedding party if more people would like to take part in the celebration. Many of the details I would work through with my fiancé.

[broken_heart_at_48]

Wouldn't ever get married again and my first and only wedding I paid for everything and was supporting at the time a family of 4 plus giving my baby momma over 300 plus groceries every month and was making somewhere around $15 an hour plus doing and side job I could get. I paid around $5000 for our wedding I wish I could of done more for my wife's sake but it was more than enough for me. Also we stayed 1 night at a local hotel which my mother inlaw paid for as our wedding gift.

[Aakash_Hangargi]

I think I would probably get married if ever in a temple its cost saving lol😂👰big fat wedding cost a lot lol and lots of people come so I have to think to keep the list quite small there are lot of rituals you know in India earlier marriages were done 2ith all the rituals for 5 days but it was way back so many rituals lol

[WhiteGlaze]

Anyone who wanted to come. I'd hope by that time money would almost be no object so I'd go for 20 grand. I want it completely custom designed though. I'd hand over 50 grand even. But truly the aesthetics dont matter to me as long as everything has a natural flow and feel. Maybe pay for a curtain that follows us and drops over us if we get too frisky.

[Anonymous]

I don't want to get married, but I wouldn't want a huge one with a lot of guests. And I don't like being the center of attention either so I'd be uncomfortable for parts of it definitely. As far as expense, it's ridiculous in my opinion, not only how much even small ones will cost you, but just such as waste of money. If you have it to spend fine, but often new couples go into huge debt to pay for it. And for what really? Like you mid as well flush it down the toilet or burn it.

[Paulychicago10]

Yikes, a $1k cake? I did a wedding once, cake balls! Then one larger cake ball, but it was like a half of one. So that they could put the figurines on top. Do a nice thing of cupcakes. 20 people at maybe 2.50 a cupcake. Save money on that and put it into your dress.

[nerdybutlazy]

Maybe I'm a sucker but I've always wanted a princess kind of wedding. However, I want to spend more on the honeymoon for me and my partner but I already know there's no way more than 75 people are getting invite

[SjE78]

been married before, so not really something i would want to repeat, however if i ever met someone who is worth marrying and i felt so strongly about, then i wouldn't be opposed to it... but it would be something simple preferably

[Hans222]

I voted D but I hope that would be realistic. Something like 40 to 50 people max, without too much extravaganza... Would hope that all in it would remain below 15k.

[andreasderjuengere]

I don't marry to entertain others, but because of a vision for the future.
IF … I'd marry, that is. Last time was only funny in the beginning.
If my friends want a party: let them organize it on their own.

[likelyOK]

It really depends on how big his family is i really don’t think it’s worth it to spend a lot on the wedding or the ring. But I do want a church wedding.

[Alyssa11]

I really do want a simple and intimate wedding. Just a simple ceremony with my partner and I's close family and friends. Small celebration. I'd also rather invest the money into a deposit for a home.

[Anonymous]

We had a formal reception for a couple hundred people. Then that night we had a big house party for hundreds more we couldn’t afford to have at the formal reception. Both receptions were an absolute blast! 20 years later people still referred to it as the best wedding they attended (because of the fun!).. the interesting thing is that the people who attended are the ones who made it fun. What a great party what a great time. Fantastic time.

[lanadelrey25]

I plan on bagging a rich older guy so, I'm wanting to spend A LOT. Lol but if that doesn't work out, I don't really care. Something about a small intimate wedding seems nice too, not many guests

[Apple1996]

I didn't want a fancy wedding. Litterally only spent money on rings and the marriage certificate. It was all definitely under 1000.

[KingDio]

When I was going to get married too it went from 100 to court house wedding then a party on the farm set up as a reception for it with everyone adding some thing in... but those plans died

[Anonymous]

Having been married AND done it ON THE CHEAP SIDE while still having everything a wedding normally has (now divorced) I can tell you the only way you spend less than a grand is if you basically have a family reunion at the park...

[AdithyaR]

Personally I'd never want a big party for a wedding.
If I ever do get married, I want it to be like just me and my partner, nobody else.

[DJB72]

If something happened to my wife and I ended up getting married again I'd spend as little as possible so I can invest any other money into the marriage. It's not about the service. Or the reception. Rather put the cash into creating a future

[CaptainLegal]

Never thought about it, although I like to keep the wedding private call the families and the closest friends so probably around 40 people or so maybe less.

[loveslongnails]

Spending huge amounts on a wedding seems like a colossal waste of money, unless the parents are wealthy and it doesn't matter. Five, ten or twenty thousand dollars goes a long way towards a down payment on a home.

[Avicenna]

Thing is, thats something that the bride and her family are going to want control over, especially if it’s her first wedding.

[mimi051998]

$20,000 or less on a wedding. I want my first and hopefully 🙏 only wedding to be big. Go big or go home 😁

[TallAnon]

Honestly, as a minimum I just want my parents and sister there, anything else is extra. I am fine going with 200 , but it won't be more or less special for me. It'll more be for my wife.

[Dinklex3]

I don't want a wedding, but I am opened to marriage.

[sabwafair]

I spent 25k getting Married. I Got Divorced 7 years later ! Money Gone !!

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

A grand for a wedding cake is insane, how do people just accept this extortion without question?

[pleasestopthis]

I'd have to be crazy to spend more than 1000 USD on my wedding, I prefer to invest the money in something we can truly enjoy, like a trip to somewhere nice.
I like intimate affairs, so no more than 20 guests.

[Anonymous]

I care more about the ring and the honey moon :p I'll get Qdoba catering if it means I can have a beautiful ring!

[Anpu23]

Not planning on doing that again. But it I do as quiet as possible. No real expense.

[Phoenix98]

No idea and no clue lol /=.

honestly couldn’t answer that until I was engage.

[blondfrog]

If I propose to a woman that means I really love her. So I would be willing to spend a million I wouldn't care.

[douride2]

If I ever get married with the costs now days I think I will simply elope.

[Jake1415]

I was tempted to just say "I don't want to ever marry"...

[R3DthatDude]

Meh I’ll leave that up to my future wife but the price is ty to keep low as possible

[RoxyFoxx]

I chose $1000 or less. Marriage is about the couple, not the celebrations.

[Liam_Hayden]

Two guests, as witnesses. And the only cost will be for the preacher who weds me, on my deathbed, to my best friend so that she can inherit everything without having to pay the inheritance tax.

[Ash525]

Not sure about the cost but I'd want a medium sized wedding with most of our close family

[iFarted]

Whatever makes her happy within our means based on our finances.

[AFellowWeeb]

i said 10k but i dont even know if i wanna get married tbh

[AkshiJanjua]

Indian weddings are generally extravagant but i don't like that I am fine with a court marriage

[Tunasub]

I had 200 guests. Cost roughly 5k we knew the caterer.

[SuccessfulHornDog]

It would be up to her but she doesn't want anything crazy. She has her ring and is happy