What makes a marriage successful?

Question

Answer 1

Finchie40 | 75 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

Removing selfishness and valuing each other , make each other your number 1 priority , great communication , things won’t always be perfect and you both won’t always agree on things but you compromise , making each other feel wanted and loved , affection and sex , working as a team staying faithful to each other

Answer 2

R3DthatDude

Explorer

Being able to compromise. Everyone wants to win, however if you get divorce you both lose.

Answer 3

AmandaYVR | 59 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Influencer

Well I'm not trying to sound like a downer, but a lot of it is compromise and expectations. People expect way too much from the one person in their life now.
Marriage wasn't empirically better in the 1950s etc etc. There was more structure, more rules, more clearly defined roles. That can bring some comfort, yes, but it does not guarantee happiness. We now have more choice, more freedom, more opportunities than ever before, and we're still not happy. Why? Because we don't like the amount of compromise that is necessary ("You deserve more, girl/man! Don't settle!" kind of comments are common) and because expectations are often unrealistic. Yes, some people are not faithful, and that destroys the relationship, but why did they do it in the first place? Because of the first two things. And a sense of entitlement. "I'm entitled to be happy. I deserve it." So they move on.
Life is not about moving on, searching, searching for more, better. Sometimes (often) what you find is not better, but different. And different only works if it is new-different. Then it becomes known. And people get bored, frustrated, tired.
A bird in the hand is better than two in the bush. Work on what you have. Savour it, appreciate it. Appreciate what you have, not what could be, "If only..." There is no perfect person. We are all a work in progress.

Jamie05rhs

1 mo
Very well said, Amanda. I completely agree.
AmandaYVR

1 mo
Thank you, Jamie 💛

Answer 4

Jamie05rhs

Very well said, Amanda. I completely agree.

Answer 5

AmandaYVR

Thank you, Jamie 💛

Answer 6

jennifer_bloom | 317 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Influencer

Hard work - good social relationships management - opinionated without being abusive - equal investment in the child - and quality time just the two of you - also a constant alertness to potential problems so that you address every possible situation before it becomes an issue - and a consistent loyalty and commitment to each other built on conscience and not sexual desire - as well as an equal commitment to health and exercise and nutrition - good traditions you grow up with such as taking nature walks or talking care of your elderly parents or visiting a church or planting a garden or life's pleasurable vacations or traditional movies or music the two of you mutually share together - and honest empathy for different characters that you express to cultivate a loving home

Answer 7

Xcommunicated

Xper 6

Best advice I got was are you going to be selfish or not?
it’s the only place where 100% of you + 100% of spouse= 1 marriage.
all it takes is someone giving 99% and it starts to fall apart.
communication is key to staying open and working together. Put your spouse ahead of self and always consider them in your decisions. Have a short memory with faults, have a long memory with their good points, be a quick forgiver. You’ll be off to a good start.
ps guys should buy a comfortable couch.

Answer 8

nerdybutlazy

Xper 7

I think the same thing that keeps any other relationship going willing to care for each other, love, understanding, patience and honestly just never stopping being friends

Answer 9

virgin20

Explorer

-Same kind of humour
-Similar interests
-Similar goals in life and family
-Same desires
-Respect each other's own business
Its mainly down to the connection of the 2 in the marriage