Would you Marry a person you aren't sexually attracted to?

Question

Let's say everything else is ideal, or better than you hoped for. Would you marry a person who doesn't excite you?
What if you were the other person? Would you be ok knowing your spouse isn't attracted to you physically?

If you wouldn't do any of these, why not? If you would I'd appreciate you explaining your reasoning for why you'd say yes or how you would cope with that issue as a married person.

As long as I'm not repulsed! (yes)

Daddy/Mommy needs his or her sugar (no, I need to be sexually attracted to the person)

Select age and gender to cast your vote:

GirlGuy

Answer 1

DrunkAss

Explorer

I don't see the point. Is that crude? That said, say I find her very attractive at first, and she finds me very attractive at first, and we grow old and chubby. I find I can withstand that stuff as long as I found her attractive early on. It's like if you develop a taste for some food, you still like it even if it isn't served as nicely as when you were younger.

But I'm all open to being friends with girls so that seems like the ideal avenue when the sexual attraction isn't there or we're incompatible living together or something. But I don't see the point of trying to ignite a fire from wood soaked in rain, so to speak... unless we're from a culture where the unity of marriage serves a very powerful but practical function like ending wars or uniting families/kingdoms.

Answer 2

BeenThereLovedIt

Explorer

Some women (pretend to?) appear to enjoy frequent or regular sex up until marriage, then it vanishes over time. Sometimes slowly, sometimes alarmingly fast. I believe there's a few different reasons for this.

The ones who just don't enjoy sex certainly know it, but do they tell their boyfriend, or just get him to put a ring on it for security?

What about the one who loves her man, but never really found him sexually THAT attractive, and recently started noticing other more animalistic types that are now stealing her attentions... Does she still marry the guy and just pull the plug slowly after marriage?

There's a dozen other reasons, most of which are not viewed in a positive light.

sadMeester

1 mo
Best answer so far.

Answer 3

sadMeester

Best answer so far.

Answer 4

Anonymous

First off, i would never ever get married again in my entire life. I have already and it didn't work! Then i had someone else lie to me about wanting to marry me just to propose to someone else. So, i am over that entire thing. Men can't love me, right! That being said - no i wouldn't marry someone i think isn't attractive. I wouldn't waste that persons time. There could possibly be someone else that may think the world of them and it wouldn't be fair for me to take that great experience from them.

sadMeester

1 mo
Damn... thanks for sharing. Are you ok? I hope that proposal incident was long enough ago that you've healed from it.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Oh yeah! I have healed, thankfully. I heal fast for some reason. But, it has gotten me to understand that men can't be trusted and to stay single.
Opinion Owner

1 mo
But i can't lie, i feel like i would give a white dude with blue or green eyes a chance. I wanna turn one out so bad😭😭😭 Other than that i'll keep my single life.

Answer 5

sadMeester

Damn... thanks for sharing. Are you ok? I hope that proposal incident was long enough ago that you've healed from it.

Answer 6

Opinion Owner

Oh yeah! I have healed, thankfully. I heal fast for some reason. But, it has gotten me to understand that men can't be trusted and to stay single.

Answer 7

Opinion Owner

But i can't lie, i feel like i would give a white dude with blue or green eyes a chance. I wanna turn one out so bad😭😭😭 Other than that i'll keep my single life.

Answer 8

flamiE

Xper 7

This can’t happen I would only marry a man I’m in love with and if I love him I’d automatically find him attractive despite the way he looks. Bodies don’t cut it for me, if he knows how to touch me etc that will definitely do a better job than him having a six pack. He can always learn so yes absolutely as long as we click.

Answer 9

Hangry22

Guru

I am probably half demisexual. So love and sexual attraction goes hand in hand. If there's no sexual attraction, it means there's no love for me. So no, i wouldn't marry someone who i don't love

sadMeester

1 mo
So what if they aren't initially physically sexually attractive? Do you give them a chance or is there a physical aspect that must be present even before love?
Hangry22

1 mo
I have never had such an experience. If there's an air of familiarity, i cannot think of that person as physically unattractive. All guys that have wanted to talk to me are either guys ik or someone who i already deemed as attractive by others. Any less appealing guy around me always go for the top girls. What i am saying is i have never had such a guy take interest in me
I really don't know.

Answer 10

sadMeester

So what if they aren't initially physically sexually attractive? Do you give them a chance or is there a physical aspect that must be present even before love?

Answer 11

Hangry22

I have never had such an experience. If there's an air of familiarity, i cannot think of that person as physically unattractive. All guys that have wanted to talk to me are either guys ik or someone who i already deemed as attractive by others. Any less appealing guy around me always go for the top girls. What i am saying is i have never had such a guy take interest in me
I really don't know.

Answer 12

karolaga

Xper 4

Never. Sex is important not In a shallow way. But there's a whole chemistry and emotional bonds you build around sex. So if sex isn't good more likely the marriage is going to fail.

Answer 13

JEndigoBleue

Xper 4

No, I wouldn't marry someone that I wasn't sexual attracted to. I wouldn't marry someone that was only sexually attracted to. You have to have a balance of character and sexuality.

Answer 14

MountAverage

Yoda

Why is this question being asked here every day? What is it about it? Are you people all asexual or something?
Anyway, no I would not. Why would I make my life so miserable?

Answer 15

Browneye57 | 264 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

If you fuck this up you sign yourself up for a lifetime of frustration and anxiety. I guarantee it.
Sexual compatibility is pretty much right near the top of importance. I guarantee it.

Answer 16

Alyssa11

Explorer

Of course not lol. Sex is really important to me in a relationship.

Answer 17

Unit1 | 313 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

What's the point?
Marriage is suicide for men anyway.

Answer 18

pigoat | 99 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Guru

Lmao

I have heard GaG women being in this situation pretty sad

I wouldn't be in this situation

I am not a GaG woman

Rofl

Answer 19

Mijopapi215

Xper 4

No way that would not be worth it and never work out.

Answer 20

Avicenna | 270 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

Probably not, but maybe if she were a polyglot, a mathematician or really rich I would.

Answer 21

Just_Me89

Xper 6

No; if I'm not sexually attracted to the person, we're just friends.

Answer 22

themythos

Xper 6

No physical attraction is almost as important as emotional connection. Amazing personality doesn't fix ugly face, despite what people try to push.

Answer 23

Anonymous

So did that happen to you?

sadMeester

1 mo
Gossip + reddit make me think. It's certainly an unclear situation. Or rather the process of the choice is murky
Opinion Owner

1 mo
Oh. I like your bird.

Answer 24

sadMeester

Gossip + reddit make me think. It's certainly an unclear situation. Or rather the process of the choice is murky

Answer 25

Opinion Owner

Oh. I like your bird.

Answer 26

Anonymous

Nooooo. As if more guys said yes.

Answer 27

Iron_Man | 649 opinions shared on Marriage & Weddings topic.

Master

No sir

Answer 28

Stoner710

Yoda

No I would not

Answer 29

Biancatsumi1991

Xper 5

No... No... No

Answer 30

jahaims

Explorer

Nope..

Answer 31

Filip127

Xper 3

No, I wouldn't.

Answer 32

Anonymous

Haha no sure

Answer 33

Anonymous

I couldn’t

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