It's not like I don't know if I want to spend the rest of my life with her. It's a huge change from what I am used to and change is hard for me. I highly doubt that the lifestyle my parents havr provided for me can continue once I am living with my girlfriend alone. They're very rich and I don't think my girlfriend and I can make enough money to replicate that lifestyle (even though we don't plan on reproducing). It might be easier for my girlfriend because her family isn't as affluent as mine, but she hasn't lived apart from them either.
Ok. I completely misunderstood you before. I guess the only question I would ask to that is if you would resent your girlfriend if you had to change your lifestyle but you got to be with her in exchange. I was in a similar situation when I got married. My wife had come from a lower middle class family and I had come from an upper middle class family so we really didn’t spend money. I was pretty content just spending time with her and doing less expensive things together even though I thought the less expensive things were really boring when I did them before without her. We still haven’t taken really expensive vacations and still enjoy the inexpensive things.
I know she'll say yes, it's just a huge step, plus she's the only person I've ever dated.
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Yes. We both do, but the steps involved in it and having to live free from the support system and wealth I grew up in, is terrifying
Why does being married mean a withdrawal of support from your family? Do they disapprove of her?
Get one from a Cracker Jack box
Neither. I know she wants to marry me. I want to marry her, but wanting something and doing it are different.
Well to answer your original question. Yes, it is absolutely reasonable to be worried. At the same time if you are confident she's the one and that she'll say yes, then it's just a matter of time before you face those fears and take the leap. Just a word of advice though. She's going to remember that moment for the rest of her life, so do something special. Good luck man
I know for sure it can't happen before this summer. We can't really see each other again before then.
Go to California get a confidential marriage certificate you have to ask for it do not show people unless you have to
I don't take her for granted. She's the reason I don't take huge risks regarding my life anymore.
She is richer than me right now, so that'd be stupid right now.
So asking for one isn't bad, its a firm way of saying you don't just want her for money along with also saying that you wanna be indepentant, anyway all i can tell you is that you just need to trust in your heart and go for it
She doesn't have much. I just don't have any because COVID-19 hit literally right after I was going to start my job hunt.
well online jobs are still there and marrying her right now, wouldn't be worth it, why not marry her when you have some income
I have to if I want my parents blessing.
than why are you worried than
It's the idea of it. I was raised as the 1% in the U. S. If I marry her I lose that lifestyle.
well i wish u luck man
If they were your real family they would not money in front of you unless they sense something about the girl that could be the issue
@yofuknutz from what my parents have said she's not an issue. Outside of my girlfriend and me I think our parents are the happiest about our relationship.
Then what is?
@yofuknutz the issue they have is me being able to support myself. My girlfriend being assertive enough so I actually eat. One of us being able to drive. Probably other things but these three are the major ones I can think if right kow.
So you don't work you don't have a driver's license do you have a baby maker do you know how to use it yep you have to show your family that you are responsible
@yofuknutz I have a penis a d I know how to use it. I made sure ai can't get a girl pregnant though. I also have a dog and outside of actually purchasing her food I fully take care of her. The concern isn't maturity, it's the problem that my multiple years of experience are all in a volunteer capacity
Hmmmm, non valid work experience in your family eyes, hmmmmm, thats a tuffy.
@yofuknutz they know. It's not an issue with them, plus there's a valid reason why.
Have you talked to a lawyer
@yofuknutz regarding what?
On what you should do if you really want to marry her and she wants to marry you have her and you sign prenuptial going to California confidential marriage certificate you have to ask for it by the way
@yofuknutz It's not like we have to get married soon. We have time. We've only been dating slightly over 2.5 years. I want to marry her sometime in the future now, but that might change.
I would hold off if I was you
From a legal standpoint my God almighty has it come to this or has it always been like this