When You "Picture" A Happily Married Couple, What Do You See?

[lucas262]

The him for her and her for

God made marriage the best way and the right way it could work. in my opinion the only way it could work.

God.
Man
Woman
Child.
In that order


,, oh but God's way is unacceptable it needs to be changed,, and that's all it takes. Anything else is changing the perfect formula God made.

Now the world changes the vows, the world changes the law making it a contract a trade of resources if you will.

Modern society props up hook up culture and porn desensitizes people
Tinder gave everyone never ending options

Modern society wrote a new formula, hook up while your young have your fin, waste your best years with people who fuck you bit don't love you and try to scramble for your happy ending later and pop out a kid or 2.




If 2 people have eyes only for each other. I mean Imagine if porn wasn't in the picture remove all the things that take attention off each other itll force you 2 to work for what you both want. The other person.

If 2 people are that committed to each other that's love, because love isn't something you fall out of and into its a choice you make and choose daily to stick to. Told my brother the hardest thing he does may be to wake up and see his girlfriend, I told myself if rhe day after I married her she was in an accident and lost her legs, or we'd ne ef have sex again or she was a burn victim etc God forbid, she's still my wife. Nothing has changed that fact, there is no plan b just because I don't like something in the story.

people try to gave redos of the same perfect relationship over and over. people have this notion love will fix this or give me this.

Told myself loneliness isn't a good enough reason for me to tell someone hey, I like you and want to be a part of your life, it's still about me. Your barely even a person so much as a commodity in my life. And sex is a whole other conversation.

But that is my point on love and what it isn't.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

Beautiful question, I must say!
I'd say that the example you brought perfectly encapsulates what an happy marriage is.
Unfortunately I haven't seen many happy and long lasting marriages, but the one I've seen is of a couple of family friends. They've been together for 30 years now and it's just beautiful to see how every day for them is like the first one they met!

[CrazyGirl2]

Well, mostly I picture the elderly couple in the first picture, but today love within the context of marriage comes in all flavors. Two older men like my moms uncle don who has been ‘married’ to Phillip for forty years, two elderly women, who at the start of their ‘marriage’ had to make like they were just old spinsters, because not only was there no gay marriage, but just being gay was illegal! I like the idea that marriage is now open to everyone. Love for a lifetime is hard enough to find in this world where something you wrote ten years ago when you were 12 could get you expelled from college just weeks from graduation, or loose your new job as the editor of teen vogue! So I say find love wherever you see it, and when you do find it… hold on with both hands and never let go!
*I used ( ‘marriage’ ) to illustrate common-law marriage.

[Siren777]

Some people when they say forever they mean it. It's many years of ups and downs. All types of emotions but you know what, they're get eachother. They understand each other. Many years of compromise and love. Love means acceptance of flaws. Meaning i trust you enough to know you won't hurt me intentionally, I wouldn't have to question your love for me. Love is the best feeling and it's even better to share it with someone. Love is forgiveness, knowing that your partner can only love you from a place they know how not the way you think it should be.

[ChiTown33]

What do you see? You see the surface. I have 4 sisters all happily married so i really see it every holiday. But even seeing it. You're not really seeing it. I mean i can observe them and tell you why each one is a good match for their respective spouse but i'm sure i'm still only 10% of it. People are complex. Which is why i'm pretty sure i'll always be single. Lol
I know this isn't very descriptive but they 4 very different couples but all very devoted. Devoted to a point i can't comprehend. I mean i can but i can't with the exception of my 3 oldest sister they all married young. So the married before they had time to be filled with hate and mistrust for the opposite gender like most our age.

[Leavesbound]

One soul occupying two bodies. My grandparents were married 1938-2000. She died first in 2000. He died 8 months later of a broken heart. We took their ashes and mingled them together in a single urn. The only time the two didn't sleep together was when one was sick in the hospital for a few days and when the other went to Ireland with her father for two weeks. By all reports my grandfather was physically ill from her absence. That is what I see.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I see two elderly people she is 97 years old, he is 102 years old
they are walking slowly but yet they still get around than the
two of them get in a real old times car and take off very slow
he manages to still drive and does a dam good job

[likelyOK]

Two people that stay married over the long term no trust issues, life long companionship. They have become humble and enjoy long conversations and share core values. They spend time together and no how to be without each other in a healthy way. The superficial aspects have faded and they realize working through things is better than giving up.

[NathanDavis]

My parents have been together almost 40 years now, and while they've argued a lot and had their issues like pretty much any other, I can still hear them see them laugh a lot, and cracking up when they share stuff about their days (they just can't retire and stop working) they will always go back to those moments of happiness, always... that and their morning and afternoon cups of coffee.

[caring__1]

Both are truly considerate of the other's thoughts and feelings. The caring they show for each other is clear, open and honest. Their goal is to do whatever they can to put a smile on their partner's face, not focus on what they feel entitled to receive. The greatest happiness they can experience is sharing in their partner's happiness. They make sure both always feel safe, secure and special.

[Floppy2112]

I see people who meant what they said and are of good character and standing. Because you know it's not easy and it wasn't always happy, but they persevered. I don't know if it matter much anymore.
Marriage appears to be going extinct and in the current environment where every day is opposite day, maybe it's not a bad thing.

[jerdanro]

Love it. A happy man loves his partner with all of his heart; the good and the bad, strengths and weaknesses. No matter how old they get she is beautiful to him and as long as they are physically able, he wants her. A healthy man can have sex well into his 70s. So if I saw a little bump and grind from a couple an older couple, I would be happy for them.

For the younger folks here... There is nothing better at any age than a loving, mature partner who turns into a freak in the sheets. ;)

[Wiredone]

When I picture a happy married couple I picture my parents. They were always holding hands, kissing and hugging each other. They always said " I love you". They were married for 50 1/2 years when my dad died. Three years ago they were joined together again. I know they are dancing together again.

[Still-alive]

The ones who really lived and stuck through the vows that are always uttered at weddings “
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part”
the “worse” “poorer” and “sickness” parts especially.

They’ve been through the worst that life can throw at you and are still together despite it all.

[cheapshotbob]

my mm and dad were married almost 40 years when dad passed. the arguments
were loud but they loved each other. they knew each others faults and used them against each there in arguments it was funny some times lol.

[Lliam]

This.

[krin_m]

A couple in tune with each other's emotions! Does not mean that thay have to agree with each all the time on every topic but just know what the other person is thinking and be respectful and loving about any differences.

I know, pollyannaish! Hey, that is me!

[Citizenkirk]

Happy 😊 is relative 😁‼️

[exitseven]

I used to work at a place and every couple of days I used to see an elderly couple walking around the neighborhood. They would walk close to each other and hold hands sometime. I always thought that my wife and I would look like that someday.

[Jjpayne]

Support, patience, kindness, sharing and happiness

[abc3643]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0YppxEYkqTU

[Mark987]

A Happy married couple? love this question? A couple that wasn't perfect... fought for everything together... and that back each other up. Even if he or she is wrong you agree with them. Someone that you can slow dance with... and mostly make her feel comfortable. When you talk it's exactly where you left off... no beat missed

[Finchie40]

When you are happily married and in love you don’t care what others think , It’s you and your partner vs. the world

[Jaylaa2000]

I just picture 2 people in love and eventhough everyday ain't a fairy tale. You can't imagine yourself without them.