Why are women so obsessed with marriage?

[VanillaSalt]

Who cares? Fact is what women want from marriage don’t matter if men don’t want marriage. I challenge any women here to find one god reason for a man to get married. Women don’t want to cook or clean because it makes them look weak and promotes the patriarchy. Or in most cases they don’t wanna cook and clean for the home because being homemakers a thankless job nobody puts any value in.


Many women don’t wanna be mothers or worse already are. And when men are actually interest in kids the early years they have little to no interest in the ones that would make good husbands leading to more single mothers and divorce.


Companionship can be acquired via friends and family. You can argue women provide a different kind of companionship but not without significant drawbacks like constant responsibility.


Our men’s spaces are being taken slowly. The scouts, jobs, and even the restrooms aren’t safe from this invasion so why invite them into your home? Men’s allocated spaces now include the basement and the garage.


Divorce. Statistics show marriage is a 50/50 ordeal. 53% of marriages in in divorce. Women walk away after marriage with a. whopping 80% of divorce filings being filed by women. The men you want that you get end up divorced and will lose half their life worth many times being unable to recover. They rarely get primary custody of the kids and many times end up in shitty broken situations because she got the house or he had to sell the house because half of it is hers. Divorce is bad for everyone but women openly seal it and try to win with it which is unacceptable.


None of this is hate. It’s all valid facts and if it wasn’t why would so damn many people complain about the exact same things? I see a few women talking about how we’re evolving away from marriage and moving to a more modern was of dating… marriage rates are plummeting, divorce rates are skyrocketing in comparison to marriages, more people pissed making videos like where have all the men gone and red pill topics, MGTOW is bigger today then ever, all while people don’t trust each other and there’s 500 things preventing us fro socializing from political issues to masks… are you for fucking real right now?


Marriages a leg up for women and a collar for men and reverse funnel for their wealth.

[Heartache0405]

I think it's because they're told that that's what they're supposed to do from the beginning. The fact that marriage is all just a protection for women and a death sentence for men is another big reason why women love the idea of getting married.


Too bad it's the men who do the proposing. And even if a women did, majority of men these days would say "no" or just wouldn't allow the woman to do the proposing. 🤷🏻‍♂️ marriage will eventually die out and only a select few will do it. I don't see any value in getting married. I see too many cons as opposed to pros when I make a list

[Kaytiee]

I want to get married so our relationship is treated as official and so our families are truly merged together, our relationship celebrated. As a girl can I say its nice to wear a dress and hold flowers? Yes. But a man can also say its nice to buy a nice suit, and marry his bride. Even if I could not afford these aspects, I would still happily marry in a registry office in a dress from my wardrobe.

In your take you have forgotten to say it has more cons for YOU not for all men and women, My boyfriend is eager to marry, Marriage isn't about fancy weddings, and status symbols traditionally, that is just what marriage has unfortunately become, but people still marry for traditional and humble reasons.

I don't put too much value into traditions, however I will always find marriage as a lovely way of merging two families, and celebrating each-others cultures (my boyfriend is Spanish), and truly becoming one. Do you need a marriage to do this? Absolutely not, we live in a modern world, adapt to modern ways, but can you use a marriage to do these things and please parts of the family that are traditional, and the little girl and boy in you that wishes they wore a white dress and suit? Absolutely yes too.

[Anonymous]

Yeah men like to claim that men are the losers i divorce but it’s not true. The spouse who has the most assets/income is the one who comes out the loser. If the wife has more money than the husband he’s the financial ”winner” in the situation. So yeah, if you marry someone who has considerably less than you do you risk ending up with the short stick in case of divorce. Anyway. I think the reason for many women wanting to get married is romance, the fairytale like aspect of it. The ultimate declaration of love. And it’s something money females dream about already as little girls and imagine what their dress is gonna be like and all that. That’s what’s fed in movies and books too, prince charming coming on his white horse and the peincess wearing the beautiful gown and everybody is happy. Another reason is probably that that’s what you’re ”supposed” to do and what others aim for so it becomes their goal as well. May have friends getting married and their parents and grandparents nagging them about when they’re getting married and all that so they may start feeling pressured or like they’re going to seem odd or like losers if they don’t get a husband.

[thatonearies]

I'm mainly obsessed with marriage because my parents have been married for 23 years. Their relationship is amazing and they are such an inspiration. I want what they have. I'm not interested in being someone's long term girlfriend. I'm not interested in being a babymomma. I want my children knowing their parents are HUSBAND and WIFE. And marriage shows that you want to commit to me for the long term. I don't need the huge wedding or ring though those things are nice. But I do need that marriage license eventually. You're not getting any children or shared finances with me, without that marriage license :)

[melanieeeB]

Uhm I never wanted to get married, would be nice with the right person but it's not a must but let me explain how I grew up:

From the moment I can think of my family only told us girls, that marriage is important. We would play games about wife, husband and kid etc. And in the turkish culture or like my family, would define the worth of a woman by marriage. You are not really taken seriously and being fully respected until you're married.
If I have an opinion about something, my family will tell me that I have no idea cause I'm still a girl... I'm a grown as woman.

Or a girl should wait until marriage, should only move out when she is married and so on. Also it is a shame when you aren't married, still to this day I will get asked why I'm not married yet and then get a pity respond I shouldn't worry and it will happen etc. Ughh

[Anonymous]

A lot of people are obsessed with traditional ideas, because it’s all they’ve ever known. We’ve all been bombarded with these ideas since birth.

Really, these ideas enslave us. It becomes such a deep seeded emotional thing and basis of self-worth that it dictates how we look, behave, feel about ourselves. We compare ourselves to others when we shouldn’t.

If anything, nowadays, it’s bordering on the biggest joke. Nobody should feel that way or give something such power over themselves. Detach from expectations, live your life, be who you want to be, not what society expects you to be. It should be more apparent than ever that we should not base our self-worth into these prisons of thought and emotional distress. It’s not worth it.

I am by no means saying, don’t get married… just don’t get married to the idea. It will do way more harm than good.

[jshm2]

Sheesh kiddo, what age are you?

Marriage is more about making a team together and working towards each others common goals. Not everyone who gets married does so for good intentions.

But more interestingly why the hell are you gatekeeping the issue? You get rejected again?

[HighValue]

Get a prenuptial agreement and the ring can be real gold, but the stone can be a zircon that looks exactly like the real stone.
Even then, you should live together for a year first because no matter how long two people date, it isn't the same as living with someone. that is when you really find out if you are compatible or not.

[Anonymous]

1. Girls are taught from the jump that it is important to be married. The idea is emphasized in movies 'for girls,' in toys where for example, barbie must have a ken, it is talked about with girls growing up, etc.
2. Women who have children out of wedlock are still looked down upon especially the more religious your family is or those with strong traditional cultures
3. If you are an older unmarried woman, there is still shame/pitty attached to that, like there is something wrong with you for not ever settling down
4. Once friends start getting married, there is often pressure, not to be the last one, or (see no. 3)
5. In terms of nothing to lose, a divorced woman can often be seen on the 'dating market' as damaged goods especially if she has children with her ex.

[Curmudgeon]

Exactly right. All too many women do not understand that while the benefits of marriage have risen for women, they have severely fallen for men, and the risks and hazards of marriage have severely risen for men as well. When something rewards less and pays off less, you get less of it.

[Subarugirl]

lol I don't thing women obsess over getting married, girls sure to a degree but women no... and the reason girls do is because marriage is romanticized. Though between two consenting adults is a commitment. Why would I want to have a man's children if he won't commit to me. It's about commitment and accountability. Marriage is an investment, and most investments have risk. It's up to you to weight the pros and cons.

[Mavie123]

Not all women are like that.
Many women are focused on their career but then the society label them as not a wife material because they are so independent.
Marriage is beautiful it's part of love.
Spending your life time with your soul mate.
Having a family

[MJtheCoach]

Because they’re losers! But on a serious note because narrate for women is happiness.


Imagine listening to a bitch nag you to death 24 hours a day?
That’s why is not happiness for men.


Never mind when she leaves you, she’ll take everything you have.

[SlightlyEccentric]

Women must get a kick out of marrying quickly, getting bored within a year, divorcing without just cause, taking half the guys shit and then having the audacity to say that men don't know what committment is.

[Anonymous]

Its not about being obsessed it's about finding that one who will love you and you can be happily married with, it's just a lovely dream just like how douchebag guys dream is to screw every girl they deem is good enough for them.

[MinxDoll]

Oof not me I want to avoid marriage as much as possible and kids, I want to enjoy my youth and be free

[Anonymous]

It makes me excited to think about cuz it'll mean I met the man who I believed would make a great father and that I was about to make some babies. I want babies so damn bad 😭

[Mediterraneansoul]

Bruh. That contract is tailored for the female. All you get a sex and plate of food drama free if you're lucky.

[KatherineJ]

Part of it is knowing that a man loves us enough to want a deeper commitment than just boyfriend-girlfriend.

[shaysh87]

I don’t think women obsess over marriage anymore. It’s more of a thing of the past

[clubmanager]

Yes also because of others but also because of everything that comes along

[surfingchick99]

I’m not obsessed with it but I grew up thinking it was a dream to be a princess for a day. Now I see it as a way to concrete my relationship it would mean more to me being referred to as ‘wife’ than ‘girlfriend’!

[Anonymous]

Because marriage is a sweet deal for women. Not so much for men.