My girlfriend has been recently bringing up the subject of marriage lately, but I don't want to get married. Don't get me wrong, I love her with all my heart, and I would die a happy man if I could wake up next to her every morning for the rest of my life.
But in my experience, marriage is simply not a working concept. My parents, friends, siblings have all had horrible marriages that ended in divorce. My own first marriage was a SPECTACULAR failure. The only couple I do know that still together not only hasn't directly spoken to each other in months, but I've come to believe they're both having affairs.
I love my girlfriend, and I don't want to be married to her because I know it will ruin our relationship, and I don't want to come to hate her.
Can someone please help me out on how I can explain this to her? Or am I a bad person for thinking such things about marriage?
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You tell her exactly what you wrote here. Part of being in a relationship is overcoming disagreements by understanding your partner's point of view and developing a compromise. And while I understand marriage is kind of something you either do or don't and doesn't leave a lot of room for compromise you might propose something along the lines of "when the state considers us common law I will marry you" Or she may be OK with "I really don't want to be married because of my views on it but I'd be happy to wear your ring for the rest of my life."1