I don't know why but I guess the reason for me asking this is because I was inspired by another question that a user just posted(which I will revail below) It seems like a lot of the older generations like our parents, Grandparents and great Grandparents were able to hold onto their Marriages(thus why were here). So how come we really can't seem to do it in this generation? Is it solely based off the fact of financial situations? people not wanting to make sacrifices for their partner? Just simply giving up because they thought that maintaining love would be easy in a marriage? I'd like to hear your thoughts.
- YesVote A
- No, were doomed.Vote B
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I think there are a lot of people who just jump into marriage too quickly. I have friends who were in high school and had kids or were engaged. Now maybe in our parents or grandparents generations, that was the norm.
Some people are very dependent. Some people I know can't do a whole lot for themselves. But some see marriage as an escape. This isn't all the cases, this is just one trend I am seeing.
Some people think that by getting married or having kids, it makes them an adult. When really it's just something someone can do. Marriage should be about going the ups and the downs together. But some people really aren't prepared for the downs. Especially if someone gets married too young. They may never have lived on their own, so it makes it hard when you are trying to make a marriage work and are still learning to be dependent on oneself.
Another thing, some people are getting married because all of their friends are. They may be in their late twenties, or mid twenties or 30's and are a part of the ever decreasing single group of friends. They have been dating someone a while, and figure why not get married. It seems like it's time. But they are not really ready for it. That can make it even harder.
I took a relationship class in college, and one exercise was to make a life timeline. Many of the girls in my class put down when they thought they would have kids, move out on their own, get married, and some even put down when they would get divorced! How disgusting is that? I would never plan or want to get divorced. I want to be married for life. Now I know that it doesn't always happen that way, but at least when you are in that position you should try your best to keep it together. Separation for me is only an option if all others have been exhausted.