Lately, I’ve been hearing so much about women buying their own engagement rings and then proposing marriage to their boyfriends. I think it’s kind of ridiculous, and I’m pretty sure most men who want to get married don’t want their women proposing to THEM. I’m perfectly fine with women asking guys out, paying for dates, all of that – but I think proposals are something really special that should be left up to the man. Same with choosing the ring and paying for it, that should always be the man’s responsibility. I think that women popping the question to their men is just another trendy fad, to be honest.
Ladies, we can’t take everything away from the guys in terms of dating and relationships. I honestly don’t think any man is going to take a proposal from his girlfriend seriously. There is an element of romance when a man proposes to his girlfriend, and I think it’s lost when the roles are reversed.
I put a poll up, but I'd really like people to express their thoughts.
- Only men should propose.52%(15)42%(23)Vote31%(8)
- Only women should propose.0%(0)0%(0)Vote0%(0)
- I don't care either way.48%(14)58%(32)Vote69%(18)
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I don't believe in society setting strict gender roles (or hell any rules for that matter) that dictate what other people do with their lives.
Do whatever the hell you want. Live your life I'll live mine. If a girl wants to propose that's cool. It doesn't have anything to do with me if a guy wants to propose that's cool. Plus it's a win for the guy because he doesn't have to buy an expensive ring that she may/may not like or that may/may not fit her and the guy doesn't have to plan out an expensive proposal dinner all that. I can easily see the appeal in it for both the guy and the girl.
I personally would prefer my boyfriend propose to me, but I don't think a woman proposing is taking anything away from a man. If he wants to propose he needs to do it dammit! If he's been waiting around for 3 years, you're living together, basically married but have no ring and he's not taking that step I see nothing wrong with a woman stepping to the plate.
I don't believe in marriage proposals out of nowhere. That's a life commitment that should be talked about at least a year before the proposal happens. Little things like planning how many kids you'd have together, your religious/cultural upbringing, WHO YOU'D RATHER PROPOSE, and where you'd spend holidays together their parents house or yours are very important discussions to have before you even think about engagement (you know.. engagement to marry the person you'll spend the rest of your life with).
It's stupid to sit around and wait for a guy to do anything. This isn't the 50s anymore, but that doesn't mean that you can't choose to if that's what you want to do. Just don't push your ideals on other people.1