If you make more then the rest of family, should everyone chip in or should you buy all the Christmas gifts?

[Dinklex3]

I think that its nice for everyone to chip in.
My two sisters don't make much money and both have 3 kids. I don't like one of my sisters so my mom buys her and her children's gifts while I buy my favorite sister and her children's gifts. That way we don't go broke, lol.
& I only get my parents something every two years. Since I'm single with no kids I pay and just put my sisters names on them since all their money goes to their kids.
If your family members are able to chip in though it'd be ideal. That way it really is from everybody and you're not the only one spending your hard earned money every time.
Only if they want their name on the gift though. Cause not everyone wants to spend money and prefer more creative gifts instead.

[midnightmoon05]

My family has money. But that would not be a smart way to spend money with however much money you earn. I just don't believe in buying into the commericailzed Christmas. Every family is different.

Last year... I bought my whole family 10-12 adults, two pair of Christmas socks along with $5 scratch cards... we all had fun playing and sat around with all mixed match Christmas socks...
We like the fun than see how much we can spend.

However... little kids... by around 15ish... they don't want presents. We just give money and socks lol...

The little little ones like to unwrap gifts for fun...

over all its the fun/spirit we do..

not how much money we spent.

[WhiteGlaze]

I think gifts need to be creative and personal. If I can't think of more personal gifts to give then I typically won't give them one sometimes. Only one gift meant everything to me and it was a Wii with wii sports and Zelda Twilight Princess. I bawled when I saw it cuz I knew it was etremely hard for my family to get one. There was so much more to it. Every other gift I was happy for but like never meant the same. I only recently figured its because I felt like family was disconnecting, I became known for only being into games and movies and I don't know just always feels like a lot of lost distance between people every holiday season. Fake smiles and laughs to the same jokes repeated almost daily, prolonged sermons on how the world will end also repeated almost daily but holds a special spot before and after prayer for holiday meals anyway, thats now my family so I don't know, only recently started planning gifts for multiple people and I have like little inspiration to go by but I hope it works out for all of us in the end. For your mom I say its at least fair she loses her gift though, people no matter their age or rank need to be taught lessons too. We are all children as also said in the bible, you seem to be the adult of the house.

[RaveWorthy]

Personally, I can afford to buy gifts that maybe more expensive than what others are able to afford. Knowing that, I'm very grateful for even a card from others, I'm happy that they at least thought enough about me to get me something. It really is the thought that counts. Not that I would turn down expensive jewelry if gifted to me and yet it would be just as precious to me as a card. I think the only way to enjoy the giving is to not feel self-conscious about what you could afford to give and just enjoy the act of giving itself. So, everyone should do their part in giving gifts in order to feel what Christmas is all about. It really does feel good.

[proNutro]

I think Christmas is great but it shouldn’t be about the gifts. All I want for Christmas this year is to be able to spend the day with my family... have a meal with them but I can’t. I couldn’t care less about gifts. I don’t need anything nor do I want anything.


I think people should buy something that makes them think of the person they’re shopping for. Doesn’t matter if it’s cheap. I bought a friend a NZ$60 necklace last year and she funnily enough bought me the exact same one. We both love the necklace and wear it all the time.
Anyway it’s the thought that counts. Smh people bickering about how much their gift cost... if someone wants an expensive gift then they must buy it themselves.

[Espresso-Grande]

I don't believe people should be told how much they should chip in. They should put in the amount they can afford. Then when the money is all collected, a gift for the amount collected should be purchased. It takes the enjoyment out of Christmas and giving gifts when you're told how much to spend on people

Some people may earn more money , but that doesn't mean they have much money left over after their bills etc are paid. Some people who earn more money have more debt or higher bills to pay, which leaves them with very little left over to buy giftsfir people.

[AlexanderAnttila]

This is all relative in my family currently as both me and my sister are studying. My mother currently earns the most, and she's often the one to splurge out. But we she does it because she wants to and because she loves us, rather than from obligation. And we simply buy within our budget. To me, the notion of family rigidly deciding on whom must pay the most seem strange and not really in the Christmas spirit.

But soon I'll be graduated with a Master's degree, and that will easily land me employment with an expected pay of 33-35000 kronor a month. In dollars that's 3800-4000 dollars. Then I'll certainly chip in more.

[LazarusTheRisen]

This sounds like an awful Christmas idea. You are making it a chore/task. It's no longer about the family and being together. Now you have everyone needing to spend a lot of money so you can buy nonsense gifts just so you can flaunt how much money you make. I'm glad im not apart of your family. You would ruin Christmas.

[Phoenix98]

I’m gonna be honest with you I’m just as happy with a box of chocolates as I would be with a 300$ watch.

And I honestly prefer cheap gifts rather then expensive ones because I don’t feel like I earned it if I didn’t buy it myself when it comes to expensive items.

and if given cash I just spend it on bills or put it away and save it.

I also never ask for gifts.

my father makes the most follower by me and then my sister.

i also don’t feel that the person who makes the most should buy everyone’s gift.

In my family everyone buys a gift for everyone. Though if you want to buy more you can.

[Primrose21]

It's Christmas. It never hurts to be a giver. Plus they are not strangers to you. They are your family. Give not because you feel you are obligated to do it. But give because their happiness also makes you happy. God blessed you with a good source of income, so time to share the blessings right? Plus what u sow it was u reap. The more you give the more u can be bless.

[Just_someone23]

Try this, think how a political party would handle it.

Democrats. Would tax you higher and give it to the poorer people

The Republicans. Would give you a tax break and make the middle pay more

The Libertarians. Would tax everyone at the same rate and put it in a Christmas fund. Then everyone would pay the same % rate and everyone can get a 100 dollar gift.

The last one sounds like to be the most fair

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

I don't like to ask, feels forced.
Also can't be bothered buying gifts for everyone just buy one for Dad, Mum, sister, Aunt and Grandma.

I also spend like a $100-$200 on Mum and Dad each but like $50-$100 on sister etc. 😂
A gift is nice but I can buy my own things. Those gifts just get recycled in the end lol.

Their time and their presence while with you though you can't put a price on that lol.

[flamiE]

I’d buy the gifts without wanting them to contribute as long as all of them didn’t ask for a PS5 😂😂 on a serious note though, that’s why it’s a gift. Plus they are all very appreciative, I remember sending my dad some money (I had just moved overseas and got my first job), he still have them to this very day and that was 5 years ago. He says it’s got sentimental value to him cause it’s my first hard earned money. So yeah, anything for the fam ❤️

[offendedsorbet]

I mean this isn't traditionally how gift giving works. For my family we get everyone something each. My parents get me and my sister a few gifts, I get then one usually spend 30-40 but this year im making gifts. We then collectively get something for my grandparents and they give us something. Aunts and uncles only buy for under 16 because my family is so big

[slatyb]

Gifts don’t have to be expensive. For Christmas my wife often gives me clothes she found on sale or at resale. Last year she gave me a North Face jacket she found for $14 from a resale shop. I love it. My sister sent cookies for my birthday. Very nice.

[MAC1983]

Short answer: I envy your life if that registers as a problem.

I am glad you are doing well, and so should your family...

... But do include your sister on it, so she doesn't feel like an odd woman or girl out!

It could be wrapping gifts, or shopping with you. You choose.

[Jjpayne]

I would maybe do a fair balance, do the normal gift amounts but add a small bonus, help out with food to some extent unless you already do and maybe get a movie or two for the family off of the 20 dollar movie offerings off the tv. Something special and fun for the family to watch. Like Mulan for example although now you can get that for cheap Rental 😂

[OlderAndWiser]

You are not obligated to do that but it is a very sweet thing for you to do. I would definitely make them pay some contribution. In my experience, when people get something for free, they don't appreciate it. Make them contribute and it will mean more to them.

[Jake1415]

Unless they don't have a job or makes smaller amount of money compared to everyone else ( like if all of my family members but my sister made a decent amount of money) then I wouldn't expect them to pay or chip in the same amount as everyone else but, I DO think they should have chipped in and gave you some in exchange... In fact, if I knew you were going to vet me a expensive Christmas ( or birthday gift since my birthday is also in near Christmas)

[DJB72]

Neither of your options.

Come Christmas gift time it's very simple: each person should give according to their means and give from their heart. Not a financial value. Their own thoughtful giving.

It really is the thought behind the gift that matters.

[Bang5luts]

I believe it might be a good idea to try to get a little alone time with each individual person away from everyone else (if it is possible) and maybe ask them if they are having financial troubles that might be keeping them from chipping in.. Explain your position and reasoning behind your plan and it might help you and them understand each other better..

[DiversityHire]

To expect one of your children or grandchildren to cover the costs of the families gifts is absolutely unprofessional; an odd choice perhaps, but everything else I want to say is really just inappropriate, especially given we're talking about your family.