If you make more then the rest of family, should everyone chip in or should you buy all the Christmas gifts?

[Dinklex3]

I think that its nice for everyone to chip in.
My two sisters don't make much money and both have 3 kids. I don't like one of my sisters so my mom buys her and her children's gifts while I buy my favorite sister and her children's gifts. That way we don't go broke, lol.
& I only get my parents something every two years. Since I'm single with no kids I pay and just put my sisters names on them since all their money goes to their kids.
If your family members are able to chip in though it'd be ideal. That way it really is from everybody and you're not the only one spending your hard earned money every time.
Only if they want their name on the gift though. Cause not everyone wants to spend money and prefer more creative gifts instead.

[midnightmoon05]

My family has money. But that would not be a smart way to spend money with however much money you earn. I just don't believe in buying into the commericailzed Christmas. Every family is different.

Last year... I bought my whole family 10-12 adults, two pair of Christmas socks along with $5 scratch cards... we all had fun playing and sat around with all mixed match Christmas socks...
We like the fun than see how much we can spend.

However... little kids... by around 15ish... they don't want presents. We just give money and socks lol...

The little little ones like to unwrap gifts for fun...

over all its the fun/spirit we do..

not how much money we spent.

[WhiteGlaze]

I think gifts need to be creative and personal. If I can't think of more personal gifts to give then I typically won't give them one sometimes. Only one gift meant everything to me and it was a Wii with wii sports and Zelda Twilight Princess. I bawled when I saw it cuz I knew it was etremely hard for my family to get one. There was so much more to it. Every other gift I was happy for but like never meant the same. I only recently figured its because I felt like family was disconnecting, I became known for only being into games and movies and I don't know just always feels like a lot of lost distance between people every holiday season. Fake smiles and laughs to the same jokes repeated almost daily, prolonged sermons on how the world will end also repeated almost daily but holds a special spot before and after prayer for holiday meals anyway, thats now my family so I don't know, only recently started planning gifts for multiple people and I have like little inspiration to go by but I hope it works out for all of us in the end. For your mom I say its at least fair she loses her gift though, people no matter their age or rank need to be taught lessons too. We are all children as also said in the bible, you seem to be the adult of the house.

[RaveWorthy]

Personally, I can afford to buy gifts that maybe more expensive than what others are able to afford. Knowing that, I'm very grateful for even a card from others, I'm happy that they at least thought enough about me to get me something. It really is the thought that counts. Not that I would turn down expensive jewelry if gifted to me and yet it would be just as precious to me as a card. I think the only way to enjoy the giving is to not feel self-conscious about what you could afford to give and just enjoy the act of giving itself. So, everyone should do their part in giving gifts in order to feel what Christmas is all about. It really does feel good.

[proNutro]

I think Christmas is great but it shouldn’t be about the gifts. All I want for Christmas this year is to be able to spend the day with my family... have a meal with them but I can’t. I couldn’t care less about gifts. I don’t need anything nor do I want anything.


I think people should buy something that makes them think of the person they’re shopping for. Doesn’t matter if it’s cheap. I bought a friend a NZ$60 necklace last year and she funnily enough bought me the exact same one. We both love the necklace and wear it all the time.
Anyway it’s the thought that counts. Smh people bickering about how much their gift cost... if someone wants an expensive gift then they must buy it themselves.

[Espresso-Grande]

I don't believe people should be told how much they should chip in. They should put in the amount they can afford. Then when the money is all collected, a gift for the amount collected should be purchased. It takes the enjoyment out of Christmas and giving gifts when you're told how much to spend on people

Some people may earn more money , but that doesn't mean they have much money left over after their bills etc are paid. Some people who earn more money have more debt or higher bills to pay, which leaves them with very little left over to buy giftsfir people.

[AlexanderAnttila]

This is all relative in my family currently as both me and my sister are studying. My mother currently earns the most, and she's often the one to splurge out. But we she does it because she wants to and because she loves us, rather than from obligation. And we simply buy within our budget. To me, the notion of family rigidly deciding on whom must pay the most seem strange and not really in the Christmas spirit.

But soon I'll be graduated with a Master's degree, and that will easily land me employment with an expected pay of 33-35000 kronor a month. In dollars that's 3800-4000 dollars. Then I'll certainly chip in more.

[LazarusTheRisen]

This sounds like an awful Christmas idea. You are making it a chore/task. It's no longer about the family and being together. Now you have everyone needing to spend a lot of money so you can buy nonsense gifts just so you can flaunt how much money you make. I'm glad im not apart of your family. You would ruin Christmas.

[Phoenix98]

I’m gonna be honest with you I’m just as happy with a box of chocolates as I would be with a 300$ watch.

And I honestly prefer cheap gifts rather then expensive ones because I don’t feel like I earned it if I didn’t buy it myself when it comes to expensive items.

and if given cash I just spend it on bills or put it away and save it.

I also never ask for gifts.

my father makes the most follower by me and then my sister.

i also don’t feel that the person who makes the most should buy everyone’s gift.

In my family everyone buys a gift for everyone. Though if you want to buy more you can.

[Primrose21]

It's Christmas. It never hurts to be a giver. Plus they are not strangers to you. They are your family. Give not because you feel you are obligated to do it. But give because their happiness also makes you happy. God blessed you with a good source of income, so time to share the blessings right? Plus what u sow it was u reap. The more you give the more u can be bless.

[Just_someone23]

Try this, think how a political party would handle it.

Democrats. Would tax you higher and give it to the poorer people

The Republicans. Would give you a tax break and make the middle pay more

The Libertarians. Would tax everyone at the same rate and put it in a Christmas fund. Then everyone would pay the same % rate and everyone can get a 100 dollar gift.

The last one sounds like to be the most fair

[SoCk3t_PoCk3tZ]

I don't like to ask, feels forced.
Also can't be bothered buying gifts for everyone just buy one for Dad, Mum, sister, Aunt and Grandma.

I also spend like a $100-$200 on Mum and Dad each but like $50-$100 on sister etc. 😂
A gift is nice but I can buy my own things. Those gifts just get recycled in the end lol.

Their time and their presence while with you though you can't put a price on that lol.

[flamiE]

I’d buy the gifts without wanting them to contribute as long as all of them didn’t ask for a PS5 😂😂 on a serious note though, that’s why it’s a gift. Plus they are all very appreciative, I remember sending my dad some money (I had just moved overseas and got my first job), he still have them to this very day and that was 5 years ago. He says it’s got sentimental value to him cause it’s my first hard earned money. So yeah, anything for the fam ❤️

[offendedsorbet]

I mean this isn't traditionally how gift giving works. For my family we get everyone something each. My parents get me and my sister a few gifts, I get then one usually spend 30-40 but this year im making gifts. We then collectively get something for my grandparents and they give us something. Aunts and uncles only buy for under 16 because my family is so big

[slatyb]

Gifts don’t have to be expensive. For Christmas my wife often gives me clothes she found on sale or at resale. Last year she gave me a North Face jacket she found for $14 from a resale shop. I love it. My sister sent cookies for my birthday. Very nice.

[MAC1983]

Short answer: I envy your life if that registers as a problem.

I am glad you are doing well, and so should your family...

... But do include your sister on it, so she doesn't feel like an odd woman or girl out!

It could be wrapping gifts, or shopping with you. You choose.

[Jjpayne]

I would maybe do a fair balance, do the normal gift amounts but add a small bonus, help out with food to some extent unless you already do and maybe get a movie or two for the family off of the 20 dollar movie offerings off the tv. Something special and fun for the family to watch. Like Mulan for example although now you can get that for cheap Rental 😂

[OlderAndWiser]

You are not obligated to do that but it is a very sweet thing for you to do. I would definitely make them pay some contribution. In my experience, when people get something for free, they don't appreciate it. Make them contribute and it will mean more to them.

[Jake1415]

Unless they don't have a job or makes smaller amount of money compared to everyone else ( like if all of my family members but my sister made a decent amount of money) then I wouldn't expect them to pay or chip in the same amount as everyone else but, I DO think they should have chipped in and gave you some in exchange... In fact, if I knew you were going to vet me a expensive Christmas ( or birthday gift since my birthday is also in near Christmas)

[DJB72]

Neither of your options.

Come Christmas gift time it's very simple: each person should give according to their means and give from their heart. Not a financial value. Their own thoughtful giving.

It really is the thought behind the gift that matters.

[DiversityHire]

To expect one of your children or grandchildren to cover the costs of the families gifts is absolutely unprofessional; an odd choice perhaps, but everything else I want to say is really just inappropriate, especially given we're talking about your family.

[Bang5luts]

I believe it might be a good idea to try to get a little alone time with each individual person away from everyone else (if it is possible) and maybe ask them if they are having financial troubles that might be keeping them from chipping in.. Explain your position and reasoning behind your plan and it might help you and them understand each other better..

[jamesgoldman]

I buy gifts for a few people (okay, 7)
Those people (well, 6 of them as I am one of the 7) generally buy me a gift and spend £10-30 each doing so given I've spent £20 apiece on them I've only spent more on my mother and myself this year

[laPrincesitaRoxi]

Maybe you should talk to them about maybe giving better gifts that family members are really asking for, you def could go all out but forsure ask for them to chip in at the least

[Sakura-san]

I usually buy gifts for everyone in Christmas and I enjoy doing this every year. My family members and friends bring their gifts too but I feel happy sharing mine to every one of them :)

[meeso13]

I like to give gifts but it doesn't matter what gift you get, they were thinking of you and did the best within their means, and that means something, the greatest gift they could ever give is something you get all year themselves

[OmNomaly]

For me personally 300$+ is way out of budget for any holiday outside of buying food.

My family is more focused on the spirit of the holidays and simply spending time with each other. For some family it could be their last Christmas with the family.

If we do gifts though we usually stay under 50$.

[RHK36]

The older I get the more I just buy what I want for who I want. I don't care if anyone gets me anything. Most of family has grown up and moved apart. We don't really get extra like that for Christmas anymore.

[Swe_Elin]

A gift is from one person to another, not one person to all. You buy your own gifts and give, how much someone earns is not a question in this matter.

[AdithyaR]

I feel like chipping in would be good if everyone comes together cause isn't Christmas supposed to be about doing things together as a family?

[Anonymous]

Wanting to give every person a 300 dollar Gift and asking others to pitch in wtf is wrong with you? If you can’t afford it don’t be asking others to pitch in. Buy what you can afford. The end. 🤦🏼‍♀️

[alice55]

No everyone should chip in on gifts for eachother

That's kind of the purpose of Christmas, at least in my opinion.

[KingDio]

everyone should chip in... its ment to be the season of giving but seems like greed is extremely ugly around Christmas

[Redstang88]

I’m not big on gifts, I don’t really buy stuff unless it really jumps out as something someone will want, and I ask them not to buy me anything.

[TonyV]

Gifts are suppose to be about the thought not the value

[MrsJaximus-Lion]

me and my family we all chip in and so does my husband and his family. the presents are not that important anymore we are just glad to gather and have fun together.

[Jamie05rhs]

You're asking for way too much. That's ridiculous. ... And you're also spending too much. Buy that's your choice, I guess.

[douride2]

The only family member I buy for these days is my mother. This year what do you buy for an old woman with dementia that doesn't really need anything.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yes everyone who can afford it should pitch in, even buying someone a $25.00 dollar gift is better than nothing at all

[Grond21]

Geez, you spend an insane amount on them. And they demand far more than that. Which honestly, none of them deserve

[RobZombiefrver002]

Even if you don't have the money to buy a gift, you can still make 1 yourself

[Anonymous]

Let everyone do as they want for Christmas, D, you buy for them and let it go. Or pull names on who can do what for who.

[Anonymous]

Should all chip in, but in proportion to your income. So the person who makes more should also contribute more.

[Avicenna]

I don’t think Christmas gifts have to be expensive to be thoughtful.

[Ripper_E]

Just because you make money doesn't mean it's your responsibility.

[nawtee_me]

you are such a Santa Clause... lol I'll bet you are starting to grow that white beard already huh? lol ;)

[SunnyCaliGirl]

I like your method of everyone chipping in to help pay for the gifts. I think it’s a fair deal

[SuccessfulHornDog]

We all give each other what we can and if there is someone that can't afford to give we pay for their gifts

[blondfrog]

I don't celebrate Christmas you sexy piece of shit.

[the_sinner]

I’ve heard Christmas is all about sharing even if it’s not much so I’d prefer everyone to chip in a bit.

[jaywhoo19]

Fuck no do want uou can or what they deserve its not all about that shit anyways uou know that

[sersss]

Everyone, except small kids, should chip in. If times are hard, only kids receive presents

[H8INCHES]

I only buy gifts for my parents. My siblings have their own money.

[TallAnon]

I guess I'll pick the second, but we don't buy eachother gifts at all. Hell, if I want something, I likely would've already bought it anyway.

[Anonymous]

set a price limit so everyone can agree on what they can afford so no one person feels obligated to buy all the gifts

[Anonymous]

I can't stop lacerating because my girlfriend keeps cheating on me. How do I get over her? Girls, please help me.

[codyccc]

Its a holiday based on a murder and is used to indoctrinating kids into a cult that makes billions of dollars yet doesn't may taxes there are far bigger issues then equivalent gifting

[Anonymous]

If only people understood this philosophy well enough to abolish taxation

[iFarted]

"$300+ " ? Daam my cheap Asian side is yelling, "WTF"

[Anonymous]

I think it’s a little mean to call your grandpa cheap for buying stuffed animals for Christmas 🥺

[_DFG3_]

Gifts aren't and never have been about the money

[R3DthatDude]

That’s messed up lol everyone should help chip in