I was in a relationship with a girl that is now 23 years old. I am 21. We met and fell in love with one another. We are both still virgins at the time of the breakup as we promised that we would save ourselves for marriage. Things were going well, but we did have our share of arguments and a few breaks. But, I was always there for her. I was there for her when her friends would turn on her. I was there when her extremely controlling parents (she still has a curfew) would put her down and attack her for not having a good job yet. She told me all the time that I was her only real friend, because I was the only person that listened and understood and respected her. But, she hated that I drove recklessly and would swear. She also didn't like how I just was stressed, but I was stressed because I was working 2 jobs while going to college at her request, because I could only marry her if I had my degree. Recently, she had been acting differently. She would post tumblr posts about meeting and kissing strangers. But, I still stayed true. one week before Christmas, I saw Twilight in theaters with her and we were making out and playing around uncontrollably afterward, but less than a week later on the day before Christmas Eve, I asked if she wanted to hang out. She said yes, but when I got there, she told me she just wanted to be friends. I was shocked. I asked her if there was someone else, and she could not give me a straight answer. Finally, I found out she had another guy by going to her house, when she just wouldn't pick up her phone (she lives close to me) and I saw her get out of a car much nicer than my own, smiling. It had not even been a week since she dumped me and she was already dating? I confronted her and she was shocked and angry that I found out what she was doing when she had assured me that there was no one else. I know I was acting irrationally when I went over there, and when I continuously called and texted her right after the confrontation. I tried calling her from the night I caught her coming home from a date with a guy (Dec. 29th) until New Years Eve. There were many texts as well, in which I assured her that I was not mad and I begged and begged that after 3 years of love and loyalty that I had given her, I just wanted to talk and reach a conclusion. She had already blocked me on Facebook and still has not responded to me since that fateful night. It just hurts to much that I was so dedicated to her and just because I caught her in the act, she is willing to throw that all away, even though she assured me she would always remain my best friend. My first question is do you guys think she was seeing this dude before dumping me (she promises me she didnt). My second question is if there is any possibilty to get her back, how do I do it? Thank you so much guys for your time and patience with this long post. I am just so shattered, because I thought I found her. I still want her though. HELP ME! :(
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I personally think that she was just trying to make you jealous and make you know that she is not there for granted. but the fact that you accused her with seeing someone else and caught her in the act (girls get crazy when they are caught doing something they don't want you to know about) made her extremely mad that she doesn't even want to see you anymore.
Give her sometime, talk to her close friends, than talk to her again and never give up, but don't come as too needy3
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