Girls will tell me how pretty I am. I know they're not saying it to be nice, well maybe, some of them, but I've had strangers stop me and tell me how beautiful they think I am.
However, guys don't even say I'm pretty, cute, or even okay looking or average just to be nice. I'm also in my mid 20's and have never had a boyfriend or pursued by a guy.
I don't understand how this works.
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OMG! You're Taylor Swift!
I'm sorry, I just had to.
That's because what (heterosexual) girls think is attractive in terms of female beauty is shaped by mass media, the fashion industry, the music industry, and the cosmetics industry. What men find attractive is neither shaped by those things, nor influenced the slightest by those things or female opinions on female beauty (a.k.a. the View). What men find attractive in women is based on their hormones, their first sexual arousal experience as a boy, and the manifestation of any fetishes over their life as a result of their unique life experiences. (i.e., men who were largely unemployed and performed poorly in school feel like failures as men, in order to compensate, they develop the desire to feel dominant and aggressive, they experience pleasure from overpowering a woman; conversely, men who are powerful and dominant in their everyday lives and in society are into weird and kinky sh*t like boot-licking, bondage, female domination, etc.)
Those are just examples. An other good example is how which Disney movie little boys preferred, and more importantly, WHY. (i.e., boys who prefer the Little Mermaid because they liked the mermaid are more likely to not know why they are so attracted to women with red hair; boys who preferred Beauty and the Beast because they liked the relationship aspect of the movie are more likely to feel pleasure in taking care of their partner and protecting her, but also seek out hyper-feminine and delicate women in order to better fulfill that fantasy).
The most important thing is that there's no such thing as "what guys like." Men are people, and people are individuals, and individuals are unique. Just like no two women prefer the same thing in a man, or prefer to get touched the same way in their no-no zone ... well, men are the same way.
At the end of the day, you're not running for office. You're not looking to adopt a marketing strategy that will make you appeal to the masses of men. Just be yourself. There's a guy out there who has a deep unmet desire to find a woman just like you. If you act like someone else, he may never see you for who you really are.0