We already had sex last week and it was my first time. Honestly, I really did not want to have sex but for some reason I just couldn't say no to him :/ I don't even know how things got so out of hand :'(
Anyways, we've been dating for almost 2 months and I know he doesn't just want sex with me based on his actions and how he treated me afterward. This weekend, he invited me over to his place again and I accepted because I think we really need to talk about what happened and how I felt afterward (guilty, terrified of being pregnant, etc).
My question is: what is the best way to talk to him without hurting his feelings (I don't want him to think he did something wrong) and without losing him? What can I do/say to let him know I'm just not ready right now to have sex even though yes, we already did it once?
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If he brings up that you already had sex, point out that you had to have it in order to really know you weren't ready.
Tell him that you care about him (it seems like you do), and don't make it anyone's fault. It's not your fault, or his. It just is what it is. You aren't ready.
And if, or when, you do decide to continue having sex, take precautions. The pill is available for free at most women's health clinics. A simple Google search will turn up ones in your area. For cheap condoms, go to a local university health clinic. Their pharmacy will have them at about half the cost of retail stores.
Don't let feelings of guilt overwhelm you. This is your choice, and your body. And don't let him talk you into it. If he pressures you, no matter how you feel about him, the best thing to do would be to end it. If he leaves you because of it, he's not the great guy you might think he is. You'll find someone who respects your choices and understands you.
Be honest about how you feel. Don't try to make it less or more than what it is. If you're having a hard time working out what to say, try writing it down, and reading it back to yourself. That way you can sort out how you feel and how you want to say something. When you have your talk with him, do it in person.1