I just told her relationships don't have to be about that and told her what I wanted and she goes on by saying how guys are trouble at this point I'm guessing the last boyfriend must have done something to make her feel this way
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So for example, I've just wrapped up a messy divorce and I recently told someone I've gotten to know recently that I did not want a relationship at the moment. That just means that I am not ready for the drama that is commonly associated with having a relationship. It does not mean that I don't like him -- which I established clearly -- or that I don't want him -- which I also established clearly.
It means that I acknowledge we both have busy schedules -- my work schedule and other responsibilities have me at my wit's end most of the week, and he travels rather a lot. It's best for both of us if we just date each other and keep in touch during the week without putting extra labels on everything. He said he "we're friends, right?" and that threw me off a bit (since I don't usually sleep with my friends or go out one-one-one with guy friends at all), so it's been quite a departure from my standards. We're still working the kinks out of this. It will possibly end up going nowhere further than it is now, and we may stop talking to each other altogether if our goals don't align...