When my partner and I get into sum sort of quarrel he tends to say hurtful things such as ; he is just waiting for me to break up with him, or he doesn't see this relationship going anywhere!
When we finally sit down he says he just said those things to hurt me...well MISSION ACCOMPLISHED! He apologieses, bt says more or less the same hurtful things when we fight again...!
Could he "secreatly" feel this way or is he just really negligent with words?!
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Guys *usually* say what they mean, yes. However, people often say things they don't mean, but that they know will be hurtful, when they are themselves hurt and angry.
Still, it sounds like there's some truth under these words: he's AFRAID that you're going to break up with him, and so he's insecure about the relationship. That insecurity is leading to other problems, and thus may end up being self-fulfilling.
You really need to sit him down and be completely open and honest with each other about your fears. Get everything out on the table and DEAL with it. Resolve those issues so that you can both feel more secure. If you can't do that, you'll end up breaking up sooner or later, and likely sooner.1