This girl I've been best friends with for about 2 years now has been acting abnormally stand offish and rude (to put it delicately). Just a couple weeks ago she was acting friendlier than usual too. We were hanging out a lot, she was cooking for me, and even being a lot more flirty than usual (very cuddly too). All of which is new behavior.
Then it just sort of stopped. I had asked her about the shift and she just brushed it off and said she hasn't acted different. Now she's "busy" a lot and hardly even texts me back. Last time we hung out she was texting some guy the whole time but when I brought up a gol I've been talking to she seemed to get even more irritated. The only time she acted happy was when we hugged goodbye and I said I would call her that night (which she missed and never returned).
I know she doesn't like that I'm friends with her ex but that's nothing new. I brought up that I might be moving out of state for a year or two and she protested my reasoning but I don't see why she would be mad at me for that.
I've been tempted just to return the treatment but she has literally been my best friend, not just some random girl I met at a bar. Doing so seems like it would just be childish. So what could it be?
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Cooking for you and acting cuddly where she had never done so before, to the trained eye, were signs that she was making signals at you.
Signals which you, as a guy, were utterly unable to see.
She thought she was being obvious - and your lack of a response (you didn't ask her out or whatever) made her feel awkward, embarassed, and yes a little annoyed.
When you then claimed ignorance about the whole thing and asked why she had been different, rather than come clean, she chose to lie about it. Girls are weird like that.
This is common enough when girls like a guy - if they make what they think is a clear sign and the guy doesn't respond, they feel rejected. They never think it's their fault for not being clear.
To sum up : I think she developed feelings for you, and I think she thinks she expressed them clearly and since you didn't feel the same way, she's now hurt and rejected. Texting some other guy the whole time might be a ploy to make you jealous. Who knows. She does sound typically ill-informed like most girls.0
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