So - I never really took an interest (publicly) of his daughter or son nor did I ever do anything for their birthdays or Christmas. The last time he went to prison I did not write him - not once. The time before I wrote him once, it took him 2 months to write back. The next time I wrote him (4 pages) I got a half page response. I have not moved in 14 years and him and my parents know my address and phone number.
Lately I have been feeling guilty for my treatment of my niece and nephew and they both have birthdays coming up (next two months) Money is REAL tight I barely make rent and my car payments and more then three times a week make toast or a pkg of crackers my dinner.
So my question is, do I send them something or does that make me seem like I am trying to buy my way into their lives? IF I do send them a gift or gift card, is $25 each to cheap? Honestly I do not care about getting right with my brother - he made his choices clear! He is a deadbeat (and divorced with no custody) as far as making support payments and lives off my parents and lives with them but does not contribute to rent or food or anything. They are BARELY getting by being elderly with sever health problems.
Any advice is welcome but do not be rude about it. Thanks.
PS: I have only seen my niece once in person and my nephew once (she was 9 he was new born) They are now going on 5 and 13.
What should I send them...does $$ matter? A gift, gift card, cash...
I feel foolish for asking but can not come to a decision that is not shaded by my relationship with him.
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The best way to be better with your niece and nephew is to visit them, and ask discreetly what they want, and send them the next day/week.
You're a good brother for being so attentive and caring for your brother.