Why do girls always say "I'm fine" when they're not?
What Girls Said 15
She might want you to leave her alone or ask more about what's wrong, but you're probably safe asking -I know you aren't OK, but I don't know if you want me to stay or go.. can you give me a hint-
When I say that I just want someone to notice that I'm not OK. A hug would be often be good too.1
Some girls do this, not always and not every girl. But OK.
Some girls do this because they want you to really care about how they feel, so ask again and again, usually three times. If they still say they're fine, then they don't wanna talk about it. Which brings me to my second reason: they just don't wanna talk about it or it's none of your business, so they just say they're fine to get you off their back. Or, the third reason, they just want you to "know them so well that you just FEEL it when something is wrong", which is lousy and stupid.1
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I generally avoid this "I'm fine" phrase. If I have something on my mind, I come right out and I say it. This includes my feelings. The only times I'll clam up about how I'm really feeling is if I don't know the person asking how I'm feeling, or if I feel like I've already been enough of a burden to that person that week haha.0
If I'm saying "I'm fine" I'm not so much fine as I want you to leave me alone. Generally if I'm saying that to a person they're my problem and I don't want to talk about it at that point.0
for me, its because the thing I'm upset about is one of two things: something I know you won't think is any reason to be mad, which if I tell you I know you'll say something about it being dumb and then I'll get more mad OR talking about it will just upset me more. "i'm fine" for me means "yes I'm upset as you can probably tell, but the issue can be dealt with later once I am less upset and can talk about it better, don't ask me again until I come to you, and please change the subject by kissing me and telling me something so sweet I smile :) "0
Deep down, they want you to keep prodding (but not in an annoying way), to stay there and comfort them and let them know you care. If a girl says "I'm fine" she's anything but :)0
May they just don't want anyone to worry about them, that's why I always tell people I'm fine because I don't want people to worry about me.0
For me personally, I usually say "I'm fine" when I am not, because I am scared that I am going to break into tears if I start saying what is going on in my brain. Problem is, I get a lot of anxiety and am sensitive, so if something is bothering me, I usually with bust out crying. I try to do the crying in private though, so if I do not trust the person asking me then I lie and say I'm fine. Now, if I do trust the person I will usually tell them or at least give them a shortened version of what's wrong. Except for if we are in public, because if it is my boyfriend I have a problem about and he asks what's wrong I don't want to embarrass him in public, so I'll tell him later what the problem was.0
Sometimes it's a nice way of saying "leave me alone NOW." But I would rather say the latter, haha.0
I think it has a lot to do with how girls are socialized. We are taught (or were, I see this trend is dying) that it is un-feminine to be angry or to assert ourselves for fear of seeming too aggressive. We are (or were) taught that "negative" emotions are unbecoming and that "nice girls" who want to be "ladies" don't express those emotions. I agree that it is very difficult for a man to figure out what he should do when a girl is clearly upset but will not or can not communicate the cause for her displeasure. I can see why you would call it selfish, but maybe it's not so much that as her upbringing. It's not fair to either gender, but I believe more often than not, this is the case.0
Girls are very sensitive and emotional if she says nothing bothering her and you know for sure something is it means she doesn't want you to know because she's either scared to tell you, or worried that your gonna blow it out of proportion and be upset. To me the main reason why girls say nothing is wrong is because they wanna see how much you really care about them. Next time this happens just grab her and hold her tight. Tell her how much you care and kiss her until she smiles and if she still pushes you away at least you know you tried.also try talking to her about it0
there can be a lot of reasons.
Not wanting you to worry about her, being scared that you'll look at her differently because 'girls are supposed to be perfect and problemsolvers and never have personal issues. Maybe it's a big problem and she doesn't want anyone to know or to get involved. Maybe she's confused about soemthing involving you. Sometimes it is to make things seem less dramatic because guys never show emotions so it does seem annoying that we can't help but show them sometimes. Sometimes its the time of the month and everything is just driving her mad but she knows that's the reason.
And so many more. lol hope this kinda helps.0
I usually make it pretty obvious when I'm mad, haha! I'll say "it's fine" AFTER I've made my anger known, when I no longer want to talk about it.0
What Guys Said 2
Maybe because she wants you to know if she is fine or not by your self to feel her pain, suffer or what ever is the problem , By doing that she believes you care about her or let's say you feel her pain or what ever it is because she mean something for you .0
a lot of people in general do that, not just girls...1
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