He keeps his walls up though because he even admitted how hard it is to open his heart because it's been broken too many times. He can only open up after a few drinks. On new years, he opened up to me, and it was so hard for him, I thought he was going to cry. But he told me how important I am to him and he is afraid of losing me. A few weeks ago when I left his place, he walked me out and was kissing me and tried to say something again but couldn't. He just laughed nervously and joked that he hated me. I said no, I think you kind of like me, and he smiled and kissed me again. He accepts all my flaws and makes me feel so beautiful and the level of intimacy we have is like nothing I have ever had before. When he spends the night, he wraps himself around me and snuggles me in before going to sleep and it's the best feeling ever!
But here's the twist. Unless I initiate things, they don't happen. He never calls me to get together. I just show up at his place, which he told me is my home too. He never replies to texts, which he does to everyone, but it irritates the hell out of me. His cousin's wife, who is one of his best friends, told him we should all vacation together and he said no and not to push that envelope. I'm not sure if that meant never or let him get there in his own time. When we are alone or with his family, it's great. But when others are around, I'm all of a sudden his "buddy". And after we spend an evening together, his good mood the next day is very apparent.
I just don't know how to read all this. I've wanted this since I met him and it has gone at warp speed since xmas. But his walls are still up. Help! Thanks!
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He hesitates to accept a offcial relationship status because he is't sure he can handle the pressure of it. It hasn't worked for him before. You may find he will alays have walls up, and only gradually will he accept a formalized status of any kind..such as marriage.
But probably, he won't resist forever. You will need all your patience.