Most Helpful Girl
If you want to be more comfortable around your boyfriend, you need to get to the heart of your insecurities. Is there something that you're afraid will happen? A response that you are afraid of getting? Are you afraid of being hurt? Being out of control? Being vunerable? These are all completely normal emotions. Trust me, he's nervous too!
Sometimes being nervous is natural, and that's fine. But there also comes a time when being nervous stems from past experiences or fears, and that's when it needs to be addressed. When you're in a relationship with someone and aren't ready to kiss them, that isn't necessarily a bad thing, but it could lead to problems if the relationship doesn't progress for both people. Answer me this: If you kiss him, what is the worst that could happen? And I don't mean to be rhetorical here. Litterally, what is the worst thing that will happen? Think of what really terrifies you about kissing him, and then try and come up with a few reasons why. Come up with the worst thing that you can imagine happening when you kiss him, and then write it down. Read it. Will this really happen? COULD it really happen? And more importantly, why are you concerned with this event? There might be some fears that you need to adress, or events that you need to come to terms with.
If this is about your boyfriend:
- Is there something about him that makes him unkissable? Are you attracted to him? Are you attracted to other men, but not him? What about men in general? Does it have anything to do with his hygeine? Is he coming on too strong? Did he make you mad? etc.
If he's doing all the right things, but you're just nervous about kissing in general:
As far as physical intimacy goes, everyone has comfort levels. And being sexual in any way wth a new person can be terrifying, especially if you have any sort of anxiety towards it. Have you kissed or been intimate with a man before? Have you had any bad experiences that might be making you nervous about sex or physical intimacy? If you've had a bad experience (or worse) with a guy, that can make it very hard to build a trusting physical relationship. If this is the case, you need to talk to your boyfriend about it. If you are going to be in a relationship, you need to be a team. He has his issues too, so don't ever be afraid to put yours on the table. By letting him know what you're nervous about and why, he will understand that this isn't about him. And let him know what he can do to help you move forward. If you've never had any bad sexual experiences, and you're still afraid to kiss him, then talk to someone who can help you come to terms with what you're feeling. Take it slow and don't rush it. But unless both parties in a relationship are either waiting till marriage, uninterested in sex altogether, or not attracted to each other, physical intimacy is important. You're with him for a reason. If you aren't feeling a spark with this guy, than he's not the right guy.0THIS IS NOT RELEVANT ANYMORE