If kids were treated with more discipline by parents, then they'd be ready to tell the bullies to step off by the time they get to middle school. Soft bullying needs to start in kindergarten: like critical comments from adults and banter with other kids. If you treat a kid like a flower, she'll learn to wilt when there's no sunshine.
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Honestly I think getting bullied is apart of growing up. It's where you discover the type of person you want to be and how to cope with others. There has always been bullies but now there is so much light being brought to it. Suicide and cutting are increasing because that is what bullying victims are being told to to do.
@FýrdracaDócincel I didn't realize how much of a jerk I sounded here. But what I meant is that suicide and cutting surround teens on the internet making it seem like one of the best ways to cope. We need to help push this outta their heads and tech them better ways, liking solving it. They need to learn to stand up for themselves like they'll need to do in the real world.
It's nothing new, though the cyber stuff makes it ever more difficult to escape. I had an older teacher once who described how he was terrified of one of the guys at his school, and would cross the street if he saw him anywhere near. And this was in the 1950's.
It's so weird to me, growing up I didn't really get bullied.. i was just kinda the insivisible kid but not bullied. And i didn't see much bullying going around either, there was some fights but no bullying.
@kespethdude Yes, and we are suing the school. there is way more to it than that lol, he's been bullied for years until we took him out last year after he got choked.
The thing is, it's all on camera. and it happened in the lunch room. The kid said he was playing around, but he was serious.
My brother is one of the lucky ones. There are kids with broken bones, who've been blinded, a rape in the high school. and it's always the same thing, the victim getting punished. One girl was beat by over a dozen kids, dragged off of the stairs and attacked. She got suspended for 10 days, a few of her attackers got expelled, and others I think just suspended.
Our elementary, middle, and high school are all right next to each other. The school system is horrible
Bullying will never end, people are always gonna have a hater or someone who's jealous. The best thing we can do is grow stronger instead of letting the bully get to us. Stand up for yourself and others if they can't defend themselves but don't let them get dependent on you.
Modern education lacks moral values, especially discipline. That's why people are making disgusting or cruel things for fun and think it's not a problem. Bullying is one of these things.
@Mi2mi2a Japan is known for it's exhausting work routine, many parents get no time to spend with their kids, and when they have it, they can confusing education with overzealousness (which is bad for kid's development and makes them being potential victims for bullies). The japanese schools are highly focused on academic achievement, that's the primary role of a school, but it doesn't prevent juveniles from being bullied. The parental education and the values of the society must be rethinked in Japan as well as in western societies.
It is every easy to bully the bullies. You just have to think. Go get some weed and put it in their locker and tell the teacher there is a strange smell coming from the locked etc...
Don't ignore the bullies because they will never go away. You have to face them when you're young so when you get older you will be prepared to face other bullies. Usually when you fight against your bullies they'll usually back down. Now if you're an adult I wouldn't recommend fighting them more like confronting them if they have issues with you. If you have to fight let them throw the first punch and have someone record it so that you have evidence it was self defense.
Letting someone throw the first punch is a bad idea - that punch could knock you out, and if they're really psychopathic they might even use your head as a trampoline while you're down. Under the law you're allowed to throw the first punch if you can justify it e. g. you've tried your best to talk the situation down, have backed off and the guy keeps coming at you and an attack is inevitable.
It is getting ridiculous. These kids used to call me Richard (look up nicknames) and I never said shut up or stop I just ignored them until one day I exploded. Don't explode They still call me Richard but I say stop and they don't but sometimes you just gotta toughen up.
The whining and victim-hood culture is also getting way beyond ridiculous. The 'everything is okay' mantra isn't helping anyone either. Not everything is good or okay - there is actually bad stuff.
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I was bulled all throughout high school which caused me to drop out at 17, I never even went to college because I was so insecure at this point and had a deep hatred towards people in general, I've been a loner ever since and it doesn't bother me because I've seen what people are truly capable of and it sickens me, I'll be 25 in a week and I'll no doubt still be this way at 30, bullying fucks you up for life
You should try to ignore the bullies. If that doesn't stop them, then tell a teacher, or your parents or someone. There's plenty of other things I could tell you (and that other people have mentioned), but I'm sure they're illegal.
I'm bullied by my family. I'd rather be bullied at school than at home...
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It’s always going to happen unfortunately, it’s like a pecking order and small ones get picked on by the bigger ones because it makes them feel better about them selves because bullies have low self esteem issues
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Amen have to agree it all needs to come to an end, fatshaming, skinnyshaming ALL of IT
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If kids were treated with more discipline by parents, then they'd be ready to tell the bullies to step off by the time they get to middle school. Soft bullying needs to start in kindergarten: like critical comments from adults and banter with other kids. If you treat a kid like a flower, she'll learn to wilt when there's no sunshine.
Honestly I think getting bullied is apart of growing up. It's where you discover the type of person you want to be and how to cope with others. There has always been bullies but now there is so much light being brought to it. Suicide and cutting are increasing because that is what bullying victims are being told to to do.
"Suicide and cutting are increasing because that is what bullying victims are being told to to do."
Woah woah now.. best not be using common sense on this thread unless you want to be drowned in the tears of nobodys.
@FýrdracaDócincel
I didn't realize how much of a jerk I sounded here. But what I meant is that suicide and cutting surround teens on the internet making it seem like one of the best ways to cope. We need to help push this outta their heads and tech them better ways, liking solving it. They need to learn to stand up for themselves like they'll need to do in the real world.
It's nothing new, though the cyber stuff makes it ever more difficult to escape. I had an older teacher once who described how he was terrified of one of the guys at his school, and would cross the street if he saw him anywhere near. And this was in the 1950's.
It's so weird to me, growing up I didn't really get bullied.. i was just kinda the insivisible kid but not bullied. And i didn't see much bullying going around either, there was some fights but no bullying.
My brother was choked in school. He got suspended.
I could post news stories about way worse stories form my school but I don't know if anyone wants to read them lol. rape, attacks, jumps, beatdowns.
Wait, HE got suspended and not the one who choked him? This should call for an investigation.
@kespethdude Yes, and we are suing the school. there is way more to it than that lol, he's been bullied for years until we took him out last year after he got choked.
The thing is, it's all on camera. and it happened in the lunch room. The kid said he was playing around, but he was serious.
My brother is one of the lucky ones. There are kids with broken bones, who've been blinded, a rape in the high school. and it's always the same thing, the victim getting punished. One girl was beat by over a dozen kids, dragged off of the stairs and attacked. She got suspended for 10 days, a few of her attackers got expelled, and others I think just suspended.
Our elementary, middle, and high school are all right next to each other. The school system is horrible
Bullying will never end, people are always gonna have a hater or someone who's jealous. The best thing we can do is grow stronger instead of letting the bully get to us. Stand up for yourself and others if they can't defend themselves but don't let them get dependent on you.
Modern education lacks moral values, especially discipline. That's why people are making disgusting or cruel things for fun and think it's not a problem. Bullying is one of these things.
However, you see Japan has a good value system education, yet there is a great number of bullying and suicide due to it.
@Mi2mi2a Japan is known for it's exhausting work routine, many parents get no time to spend with their kids, and when they have it, they can confusing education with overzealousness (which is bad for kid's development and makes them being potential victims for bullies). The japanese schools are highly focused on academic achievement, that's the primary role of a school, but it doesn't prevent juveniles from being bullied. The parental education and the values of the society must be rethinked in Japan as well as in western societies.
You don't think there was bullying in the past?
It is every easy to bully the bullies. You just have to think. Go get some weed and put it in their locker and tell the teacher there is a strange smell coming from the locked etc...
Or grab some mace.
Fucking. Brilliant!
Don't ignore the bullies because they will never go away. You have to face them when you're young so when you get older you will be prepared to face other bullies. Usually when you fight against your bullies they'll usually back down. Now if you're an adult I wouldn't recommend fighting them more like confronting them if they have issues with you. If you have to fight let them throw the first punch and have someone record it so that you have evidence it was self defense.
Letting someone throw the first punch is a bad idea - that punch could knock you out, and if they're really psychopathic they might even use your head as a trampoline while you're down. Under the law you're allowed to throw the first punch if you can justify it e. g. you've tried your best to talk the situation down, have backed off and the guy keeps coming at you and an attack is inevitable.
It is getting ridiculous. These kids used to call me Richard (look up nicknames) and I never said shut up or stop I just ignored them until one day I exploded. Don't explode They still call me Richard but I say stop and they don't but sometimes you just gotta toughen up.
The whining and victim-hood culture is also getting way beyond ridiculous. The 'everything is okay' mantra isn't helping anyone either. Not everything is good or okay - there is actually bad stuff.
I was bulled all throughout high school which caused me to drop out at 17, I never even went to college because I was so insecure at this point and had a deep hatred towards people in general, I've been a loner ever since and it doesn't bother me because I've seen what people are truly capable of and it sickens me, I'll be 25 in a week and I'll no doubt still be this way at 30, bullying fucks you up for life
Seems like the online bullying may be worse, because the person's words stay there basically forever unless they delete them.
you can't end this, it's just natural
yes, wanting someone to commit suicide is natural for some people
You should try to ignore the bullies. If that doesn't stop them, then tell a teacher, or your parents or someone. There's plenty of other things I could tell you (and that other people have mentioned), but I'm sure they're illegal.
Simples...
How to deal with non-violent bullies: get thicker skin.
How to deal with violent bullies: git gud at martial arts.
Ez.
I'm bullied by my family. I'd rather be bullied at school than at home...
It’s always going to happen unfortunately, it’s like a pecking order and small ones get picked on by the bigger ones because it makes them feel better about them selves because bullies have low self esteem issues
Amen have to agree it all needs to come to an end, fatshaming, skinnyshaming ALL of IT
Taser someone who bullies you, in private if you can. That'll make em think twice.