You can be logical and still have feelings. Just feelings like "OMG, she has the same outfit, I HATE her!" or "I want people to behave in a certain way, but also, I want them to NOT behave that way! Gosh, so annoying!" or "I'm SO hungry, I'm gonna cry!" or "We met 2 hours ago, BUT I LOVE YOU! I WANT TO MARRY YOU!" are not going to occur anymore. And that is definitely a good thing. You're not a bitch for not making a drama out of petty stuff. They are.
What I definitely as bitch is different from this, but if you are a bitch for this reason and I am too. And yeah sometimes I do come out as bitchy for this but I don't mind that either.
This sounds just like the excuses all bitches use to justify their shitty behavior. "I'm not rude, I'm just honest/brave/logical/assertive" Yeah, if that was it, then people wouldn't consider you a bitch.
Nah, I just think that's the traits of an unlikeable asshole and no one likes that. If that's you, I hope you are comfortable being alone. Invest in cats.
I like honesty, but I can't stand that elitist attitude of people that think they're better because they, "keep things real" Or they "dont want to sugarcoat things"
So, you're calling being honest and authentic being a bitch? #3 though, regardless of sex, being nice with people (unless they are not nice with you) is a basic mark of respect to me. I expect everyone to be nice to others, I hope you're not an ass with people just because you feel like it.
What I think of as being bitchy in a woman, isn't any different than what I see as behavior by insecure men. If you want to understand boys and girls in high school, go to the zoo and watch any other pack animal which lacks self-awareness. They look for the weakest among them, and tear them apart as a means of raising their own status.
As long as we're going with the dog metaphor, the OP has coated this bitter pill (#5) with a thick layer of cheese (every other number,) and expects someone to swallow it. It's a means of making the truth, that pill, more palatable. That said, it's not we who are the objects of her action, but she herself. She's trying to justify being an inconsiderate, self-serving individual to herself, by framing it as "honesty," and a "feminist issue" which both sound very positive, but it's merely a red herring.
In most careers, this will hurt your ability to earn. Whether you care or not is up to you.
Obviously you don't want more friends/to date, which is your call.
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Haha actually you are wrong. I know exactly how to make 'friends' for personal use in work and how to work with others. Actually I mentioned that in the take. Thing is , if you're good enough , no one will not work with you just because you are difficult. People still want to use me for things. I take advantage of that. That's just life. I still have friends actually. Just not many , which I prefer.
Of course people will still work with you if you're good enough, but it shuts a lot of doors. I know one guy who works for google who has - by google standards - high skills/low social interaction skills and ability to sugarcoat. So they just have him work on his own, and he's valuable enough they deal with it.
But he's never getting promoted. He can't "sell" internally. He can't manage people and that limits what he can do.
Lots of things he still can do. You said you 'can't sugarcoat'. That's not a personality trait, that's a skill that you don't have. It limits your ability to communicate. Whether that matters to you ever, I can't say.
I can't sugarcoat when it doesn't have use for me. I mentioned in the first point that I can lie very well if it benefits me. I'm not bad at reading people actually. I know exactly how to get to someone. I don't do this often because I don't enjoy using people for no reason unless it's mutual , I'm not that much of a terrible person. However , when it's good for me to 'sugarcoat' 'not be honest' 'be fake' I can do all that, if it means it'll get me something I want. Currently though I don't need to do that as much. Probably won't need to either in my field of study.
In General, you as in people dont know some people as well as they think they do... people observe too. Pay attention to surroundings get your noses off the phones.
There is a difference between being brutally honest and yet emphatic vs. being a condescending and arrogant cunt.
You can get away with this bullshit because you are young. When you get older and your looks fade you find yourself losing power. You may have relative success bullying people in your local sphere. Ultimately you will never go as far as your potential because most people will not want to help you.
Enjoy your fiefdom.
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I mentioned that in the take. I said being honest isn't necessarily being an asshole. But obviously you ignored that part lol.
You could literally just not smile at someone when you talk to them and be labeled a bitch. May as well take the label back for ourselves. We're all bitches!
Oh god, don't do that. You're not taking any label anywhere good, you're just degrading yourself and making it really embarrassing. That sort of self-defense screams insecure pride. Just stop caring about what people say, you don't need to start a cringy movement that makes women hard to be taken seriously by making labels that show lack of self-respect.
@Cheetah23 lmao, if you can't call yourself a bitch, how are you not the insecure one? I am a bitch. I get an attitude when I shouldn't. I'm rude in unnecessary situations. I don't listen to direction unless it's important (work, law, etc). I'm everything men call women bitches for. I'm a bitch. You can be embarrassed for me, but I'm not embarrassed in the slightest so that's on you 🤷♀️
Calling yourself is a defence-mechanism, how do you not know this? But seeing your reply, it's not really just that, it's cowardice too, you're trying to make yourself feel better by hiding behind a word you know is wrong instead of fixing your flaws. People work on themselves, they don't have to be perfect. But you don't even try to progress. That's the point, your lack of embarrassment is the issue. IT is embarrassing. Just help yourself, you don't need to be this way.
@Cheetah23 so you're saying that I should do as others please as a way of "fixing" myself? I'd rather stay the way I am. There's nothing wrong with me to "fix" beside the fact that I don't act exactly as others want me to.
I find it easier to bring out my bitchy side to people I don't know or don't know well, when necessary of course. But to my friends I'm a sweetheart obviously
Except I seem to remember Scarlett O'Hara ending the movie a sniveling groveling housewife begging Rhett not to leave her and him responding "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn."
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Lol I'd be the one saying I dont give a damn. I didn't like her , she was acting really dumb in the movie actually. I just like the RBF.
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You can be logical and still have feelings.
Just feelings like "OMG, she has the same outfit, I HATE her!"
or "I want people to behave in a certain way, but also, I want them to NOT behave that way! Gosh, so annoying!" or "I'm SO hungry, I'm gonna cry!" or "We met 2 hours ago, BUT I LOVE YOU! I WANT TO MARRY YOU!" are not going to occur anymore. And that is definitely a good thing. You're not a bitch for not making a drama out of petty stuff. They are.
Another reason you are is making us read this long ass thing
LOL that's funny actually , I like that.
What I definitely as bitch is different from this, but if you are a bitch for this reason and I am too. And yeah sometimes I do come out as bitchy for this but I don't mind that either.
This sounds just like the excuses all bitches use to justify their shitty behavior.
"I'm not rude, I'm just honest/brave/logical/assertive"
Yeah, if that was it, then people wouldn't consider you a bitch.
Basically.
This sounds like one big justification for having no social skills or restraint, and being proud of it. Edgy.
Nah, I just think that's the traits of an unlikeable asshole and no one likes that.
If that's you, I hope you are comfortable being alone.
Invest in cats.
Yep I dont mind.
Oh she won’t be alone, she has me.
i love this i have rbf syndrome and my nickname from my own grandmother is bitch so to say the least i am a bitch ha so i like this mytake
I like honesty, but I can't stand that elitist attitude of people that think they're better because they, "keep things real" Or they "dont want to sugarcoat things"
I like how she liked your comment, clearly she didn't understand it related to her.
So, you're calling being honest and authentic being a bitch?
#3 though, regardless of sex, being nice with people (unless they are not nice with you) is a basic mark of respect to me. I expect everyone to be nice to others, I hope you're not an ass with people just because you feel like it.
Be a Bitch it good...
But be a sexy one.. And men will worship you..
Since that is practically what Goddess are..
Hello mr beta orbiter for fuck sake this advice...
@Pejtu sweetie I am Omega!. Flexible... She says she is bitch she cannot change.. I am just letting her know.. How to be wonderful
I think only #5 would make one a "bitch". Not even #8 does.
I totally agree. The rest sounds fine.
What I think of as being bitchy in a woman, isn't any different than what I see as behavior by insecure men. If you want to understand boys and girls in high school, go to the zoo and watch any other pack animal which lacks self-awareness. They look for the weakest among them, and tear them apart as a means of raising their own status.
As long as we're going with the dog metaphor, the OP has coated this bitter pill (#5) with a thick layer of cheese (every other number,) and expects someone to swallow it. It's a means of making the truth, that pill, more palatable. That said, it's not we who are the objects of her action, but she herself. She's trying to justify being an inconsiderate, self-serving individual to herself, by framing it as "honesty," and a "feminist issue" which both sound very positive, but it's merely a red herring.
In most careers, this will hurt your ability to earn. Whether you care or not is up to you.
Obviously you don't want more friends/to date, which is your call.
Haha actually you are wrong.
I know exactly how to make 'friends' for personal use in work and how to work with others.
Actually I mentioned that in the take.
Thing is , if you're good enough , no one will not work with you just because you are difficult. People still want to use me for things. I take advantage of that. That's just life.
I still have friends actually. Just not many , which I prefer.
Of course people will still work with you if you're good enough, but it shuts a lot of doors. I know one guy who works for google who has - by google standards - high skills/low social interaction skills and ability to sugarcoat. So they just have him work on his own, and he's valuable enough they deal with it.
But he's never getting promoted. He can't "sell" internally. He can't manage people and that limits what he can do.
Lots of things he still can do. You said you 'can't sugarcoat'. That's not a personality trait, that's a skill that you don't have. It limits your ability to communicate. Whether that matters to you ever, I can't say.
I can't sugarcoat when it doesn't have use for me.
I mentioned in the first point that I can lie very well if it benefits me.
I'm not bad at reading people actually. I know exactly how to get to someone.
I don't do this often because I don't enjoy using people for no reason unless it's mutual , I'm not that much of a terrible person.
However , when it's good for me to 'sugarcoat' 'not be honest' 'be fake' I can do all that, if it means it'll get me something I want.
Currently though I don't need to do that as much. Probably won't need to either in my field of study.
Lol, sounds like you and I would get along pretty well.
This sounds more like an annoying person in real life.
Great. Dont really care if I annoy people , actually keeps the crappy people away from me.
You do realize you're the crappy person.
You gotta realize that nobody gives a shit why or what your reason may be.
You could have ten million great reasons, nobody cares.
In General, you as in people dont know some people as well as they think they do... people observe too. Pay attention to surroundings get your noses off the phones.
@Darknut I don't own a phone. Never have.
There is a difference between being brutally honest and yet emphatic vs. being a condescending and arrogant cunt.
You can get away with this bullshit because you are young. When you get older and your looks fade you find yourself losing power. You may have relative success bullying people in your local sphere. Ultimately you will never go as far as your potential because most people will not want to help you.
Enjoy your fiefdom.
I mentioned that in the take. I said being honest isn't necessarily being an asshole.
But obviously you ignored that part lol.
Alright, your right I didn't read your whole take.
However, I've met women who use this reasoning just be bullying cunts and feminism says that's just fine.
You could literally just not smile at someone when you talk to them and be labeled a bitch. May as well take the label back for ourselves. We're all bitches!
Oh god, don't do that. You're not taking any label anywhere good, you're just degrading yourself and making it really embarrassing. That sort of self-defense screams insecure pride. Just stop caring about what people say, you don't need to start a cringy movement that makes women hard to be taken seriously by making labels that show lack of self-respect.
@Cheetah23 lmao, if you can't call yourself a bitch, how are you not the insecure one? I am a bitch. I get an attitude when I shouldn't. I'm rude in unnecessary situations. I don't listen to direction unless it's important (work, law, etc). I'm everything men call women bitches for. I'm a bitch. You can be embarrassed for me, but I'm not embarrassed in the slightest so that's on you 🤷♀️
Calling yourself is a defence-mechanism, how do you not know this?
But seeing your reply, it's not really just that, it's cowardice too, you're trying to make yourself feel better by hiding behind a word you know is wrong instead of fixing your flaws. People work on themselves, they don't have to be perfect. But you don't even try to progress.
That's the point, your lack of embarrassment is the issue. IT is embarrassing. Just help yourself, you don't need to be this way.
*it is a
@Cheetah23 so you're saying that I should do as others please as a way of "fixing" myself? I'd rather stay the way I am. There's nothing wrong with me to "fix" beside the fact that I don't act exactly as others want me to.
There is a difference between being a real bitch and being honest person.
I find it easier to bring out my bitchy side to people I don't know or don't know well, when necessary of course. But to my friends I'm a sweetheart obviously
Except I seem to remember Scarlett O'Hara ending the movie a sniveling groveling housewife begging Rhett not to leave her and him responding "Frankly my dear, I don't give a damn."
Lol I'd be the one saying I dont give a damn.
I didn't like her , she was acting really dumb in the movie actually.
I just like the RBF.
You should do the face of Dr. Grace Miller from Scrubs. She makes my male chauvinist blood run cold. I am glad the show did not feature her too much.